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Dutypaid · 02/12/2022 10:49

He wants the girlfriend experience without the commitment. He's not interested and you're going to get hurt. He can soothe his conscience by telling himself & you that he warned you about being compatible so that he doesn't have to take responsibility for your feelings. He's already starting to manipulate you.

KettrickenSmiled · 02/12/2022 11:15

I’ve posted before but reposting for traffic
been on 5 dates with a guy
So you've been warned off this guy before by PP, but didn't take the advice & are still hankering after him?

he was super intense and full on
HUGE red flag. You've only met each other 5 times. Why are you attracted to this intensity? Were you not warned about Love Bombing on your last thread?

and now days he wants to dial it down, as he doesn’t want it to be all sex, he’s not sure about our compatibility but time will tell
"I've shagged your brains out, so that itch is scratched, but now I've caught you on my Intensity Hook I want you to remain available for shagging when I want it, but also to be All Understanding when I choose to be unavailable to you."

he says he thinks we inhabit different worlds
Hello ... Planet Earth ...? Is anybody there ...?
This is pure bullshit, & as PP have spotted - to make you want to jump through hoops trying to make yourself more 'compatible with' ie agreeable to him.

Then he said he really really likes me and he’s afraid of getting hurt
"I like you so much I want to dial it down & feel we are incompatible."

I am so confused and I feel this has sucked the fun of things
but he’s the sexiest man I’ve met in years and I feel we do have a connection
that being said I don’t want my heart broken again
what would you do?
Say bye bye.
"Not keen on your mixed messages, as I am looking for a LTR, & when people are genuine about wanting a LTR, they don't blow hit & cold or play mindgames. Good luck in future, I won't be contacting you again."

DosCervezas · 02/12/2022 11:19

KettrickenSmiled · 02/12/2022 11:15

I’ve posted before but reposting for traffic
been on 5 dates with a guy
So you've been warned off this guy before by PP, but didn't take the advice & are still hankering after him?

he was super intense and full on
HUGE red flag. You've only met each other 5 times. Why are you attracted to this intensity? Were you not warned about Love Bombing on your last thread?

and now days he wants to dial it down, as he doesn’t want it to be all sex, he’s not sure about our compatibility but time will tell
"I've shagged your brains out, so that itch is scratched, but now I've caught you on my Intensity Hook I want you to remain available for shagging when I want it, but also to be All Understanding when I choose to be unavailable to you."

he says he thinks we inhabit different worlds
Hello ... Planet Earth ...? Is anybody there ...?
This is pure bullshit, & as PP have spotted - to make you want to jump through hoops trying to make yourself more 'compatible with' ie agreeable to him.

Then he said he really really likes me and he’s afraid of getting hurt
"I like you so much I want to dial it down & feel we are incompatible."

I am so confused and I feel this has sucked the fun of things
but he’s the sexiest man I’ve met in years and I feel we do have a connection
that being said I don’t want my heart broken again
what would you do?
Say bye bye.
"Not keen on your mixed messages, as I am looking for a LTR, & when people are genuine about wanting a LTR, they don't blow hit & cold or play mindgames. Good luck in future, I won't be contacting you again."

Spot on advice.

DropOfffArtiste · 02/12/2022 11:19

"Ok, bye then"

and block.

hugefanofcheese · 03/12/2022 22:38

Nah it should be nice and simple 5 dates in. He's messing you about, wants you bending over backwards to prove your compatibility. I'd write this one off.