Dh and nights out

[neednewbag]

Does anyone's dp/sh actually arrange for them to go out(without children) in the evening without being prompted by us?

No, neednewbag, you are not being remotely unreasonable - you want your DH to make an effort to imagine, and take total responsibility for, an evening out with you that will make you feel loved and cherished and totally cared for. We all need that once in a while

No never, if we go out together its because ive sorted it. He will however sort nights out for him and the boys!!

Our main and favourite babysitter is the daughter of an old friend of my partner's - he's known her forever and is always the one that arranges for her to babysit

he'll be home soon and i don't want another horrible evening. i now want to ask if him arranging the evening out means he'll sort taxi too ( i'm happy arrnaging babysitters as i know them better or it's my mum) or shouls i just leave it that he'll try to start organising things?

it's gone from bad to worse now. when he came in he'd bought flowers to say sorry. then he asked how my day had been and i said crap and he asked why. that upset me even more as it was crap because of what happened yesterday and felt exhausted and upset from last night. he then got stroppy and said he might as well go upstairs. then he came back, he ALWAYS spends an hour or so with ds before he goes to bed, he then said (infront of ds) that he didn't want to play with him and went back upstairs. i went in to tell him ds was expecting him to play and looked sad when he walked off. they're now paying together - even more upset with dh now for upsetting ds

I nagged my dh for about 6 months to take me out but in the end gave up waiting for him to book something I had one final go at homi recently and he has taken me to the cinema ( Iam 6 mionths pregnant so really thats all I fancied,am quite tired) HE had such a good time that he said 'right thats it I am taking you out once a month! from now on'-like I am some kind of caged animal!! ha ha.The funny thing is I don't feel much like going out at all now I have nagged all this time as I am now fat,grumpy tired etc and all I really fancy is sitting in and relaxing!!Funny isn't it how things change-I know that I will feel differently when baby is here so I have to force these next few months and make sure he keeps this 'new thing' of taking me out up because if not i am in danger of him slipping back into old ways!!!!Are you sure it isn't circumstancial how you are feeling.?I had recently decided to give up on mine taking me anywhere and had decided that for the rest of our married life that I was just simply going to have to be the organiser-well at least you get to choose somewhere you like!

ANNA8888 your presence and knowledge of the romantic city is required over here

trying to put it behind me now, but still upset about the whole episode. any other comments, anyone?