Feel like I've used up my 3 wishes for love/stuck in singlehood

[Celia24]

I'm 30 and feeling like my romantic days are behind me. I fell in love twice, had so many romantic trips and partner experiences but I'm starting to think I had my fill.

I spent most of my teenage years with one boyfriend, a lovely first relationship. Early 20s I had a serious boyfriend that wasn't quite right and another 3 years ago who I adored/we lived together but cheated and left me heartbroken.

In between I also met men through courses or hobbies where a connection would grow into more. But in the last 3 years I feel like my luck has run out.

Ive tried a bit of online dating (last year I had a casual fling with a hottie that went nowhere) while I secretly mooned.over a guy at work who showed all signs of liking me before going off with someone else.

Recently I joined a climbing club & like one guy in the club (who again seems to like me) but another woman there also likes him 😕I feel as though men in real life never pursue me anymore & that they never will again. Even in hobby groups they are so nice & respectful that the flirting just never seems to happen. Has anyone felt this and found a way out?!

Why does it matter that another woman also likes the climber? Who does he like?

On the rest of it...oh my, 30. You have no idea how young that is and I have no idea why you think there's a life limit we all get on romance?

@ReneBumsWombats well I don't know! He stays close to me/we are always catching each other's eyes but then at other times I do seem them laughing together etc. I also am fond of her as a friend so that makes it worse. In the past I was quite ruthless with this kind of thing and would make sure I got my man but really I'm too old now!

I know what you're saying but it's more than 3 years since I've made a meaningful connection that went somewhere. It's affected my confidence & just feels like nothing will change. I've had a casual fling with a hot guy who did ask me out first online - but in person the nice quieter men I like never ask me out or if I do the asking it seems to scare them.

You are still a spring chicken! If you worry about it less and enjoy things as they are at present, ie being independent and single, someone will appear in your life. Just don't look needy or eager.

Never mind about the man in the climbing club, he is not the only pebble on the beach.

Have a lovely Christmas and look forward to 2023.

I don't think I do look needy @LBFseBrom - in fact my ex said 'you don't need a man' to me recently so I think I may give off the opposite impression.

To be honest I have mastered the art of being independent and single! I have my own home and hobbies, good job. It's a nice thing but eventually you do want someone to share it all with. I feel like must be doing something wrong. I try but find it hard to keep my spirits up sometimes - aside from 2 people I know everyone else is partnered.