Cancelling Wedding

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Hi, I hope to find a bit of help here…

I was due to be married in just under 5 months. I have emotionally had enough and have decided to walk away from the relationship. It’s quite hard because I do not have any close friends and do not talk to my mum or dad for the last 2 years.
I have a young daughter and I have found myself back to square one and I don’t know how to move forward, cancel my wedding, how to tell his family (I am incredibly close to his mum), how to tell my daughter, I am just so lost right now!

He can tell his mum. Do you have any one who can help phone things and cancel them etc?

Is it DD's father that you are engaged to ? And how old is DD? If he is is just your BF who she sees sometimes, then it really will not be a big deal to her unless you make it one. If it is her live-in father who will no longer be living with her, then that is more of an issue. If the STBEx is not her Dad, then just play the whole thing down.

You are not actually lost. You have just reached a cross roads & have made a good decision. That’s a huge step forward.

Tell him to tell his mum because for sure if you are close, she will also want to hear your side of it. She would never hold you to marrying her son if in the long run it might break down anyway.

Once you have made your first cancellation call, the rest will be easy. You just have to get used to saying the words.

Be brave. You’ve got this. Feel the fear & do it anyway.

Is he the father?

It’s impossible to tell much from your post, but it’s clear that you are having some sort of crisis. And it’s not clear if it’s really about the relationship as you don’t mention anything about it - or some general stress/anxiety/depression MH sort of crisis that can also make people push everyone away.
As you don’t speak to parents and have no friends - I do wonder what is actually going on.
Can you access support of any sort?
Maybe GP?

Thank you all! This is not my DD father. But we have lived together for the last 3 years and she is super attached to him.

I don’t speak to my dad as he is an alcoholic, and my mum disowned me after I had cancer treatment. I really thought I found the one with this one but I just feel so emotionally hurt. We have been through so much as a couple and it’s sad to see it end like this but I cannot take the way he acts and the way he talks to me any longer. I am a few months away from finishing university and he is making me feel awful for not being at home with my daughter as I have to work shift patterns. He wants a housewife but unfortunately that is just not who I am.

Hold on to the fact that you are doing the right thing, for your and your DD.

It would be foolish to marry someone knowing that you aren't happy with them. Kinder for everyone involved to do it now.

I think you’re an incredible woman to do that OP. It’s so brave of you, so many people would feel like they just had to go along with it to please other people, but you know you’re worth more than that and have the strength to do something about it. I hope this doesn’t sound patronising, but you should be so proud of yourself!