I've been good friends with K for 11 years, we met at the school gates, I've always supported her including when she set up a business (working & babysitting when she was busy), her father's death and divorce (attended solicitor and financial meetings with her). We have DDs aged 14 who have been friends since pre-school and who have both enjoyed a very close friendship group consisting 4 girls. In the last 12 months K's DD has been increasingly mean to my DD; K's DD is a narcissist: massive ego, bossy, manipulative, no empathy but also a lot of fun. Four months ago K and I fell out over the girls, I don't know exactly why but it follows a party the 4 girls went to. My daughter had no contact from her 3 friends throughout the entire 6 week summer holidays. One of the other mums had no idea there was a problem and her daughter was adamant there was no problem. The 4 girls have since cleared their air (the 3 girls saying they tried to contact my DD but she never responded to their messages, which is absolute rubbish) but their relationship is probably irretrievable. Last weekend K tried to talk to me, I've agreed to meet her and clear the air for the sake of our mutual friends, but I don't really want to talk to K - I feel she watched/allowed my DD be ostracised by her friends through the summer holidays. (Could there be a worse time?) I don't think I can forgive K, I've spent hours and hours obsessing about what me and/or my DD could possibly have done to cause all this? I've drawn a line under it all, moved on and don't want to go back there; I did try to talk to K back in July but she gave me the V sign when she saw me approaching.
I'm not really sure what I'm asking, perhaps I'm simply ordering my thoughts.
(Thankfully my DD is a popular, sporty girl and had busy and great summer, but I know she's incredibly hurt.)