I met this guy in April but it’s been a really slow burner, we were talking daily and started out as friends but have been exclusively dating since August.
He’s 34 and I’m 30, neither of us have dc yet. He came out a 14 year relationship 3 years ago and I’m the first person he has properly dated since then. Seeing each other pretty much every weekend and staying over, don’t see each other too often during the week due to both being busy and working full-time. I sensed him go a bit quiet over the past few days, and we spoke on the phone tonight where I directly asked him what was up. He states that he’s possibly overthinking things and he has romantic feelings for me however thought he would have got to the love point by now. I asked him if he was wanting to break it off due to how he was sounding and he said he doesn’t.
Neither of us have mentioned anything about love and I wouldn’t expect it this early. I asked him directly if he could see it going somewhere and he said “I don’t not see it going anywhere” and said that his feelings are building but slowly. The other day at the weekend when he was at mine he was talking about buying Christmas presents for each other and going away for a weekend early next year.
Its not the first time something like this has happened because there was a time earlier on In our dating where he withdrew a bit and said he felt he was focusing too much on our differences but still wanted to carry on seeing me, but things were fine for ages until this recent wobble, and when we are together things are great, very affectionate and I feel very relaxed.
I said to him I don’t wanna get messed about and he said it’s not his intention. I personally think he’s putting too much pressure on himself and overthinking things but then him doing that is making me anxious and I told him that. It’s also brought me back down to earth a bit and put me on my guard again. I really want things to work out because we click so well and I’m really starting to feel something for the guy.