Hi all! Just in need of opinions and somewhere to rant.
ive been with my partner for 7 years. We have 2 kids together and live together. There’s been a lot of ups and downs over the past few years but within the last few months I believe things have really improved and we’re getting back to the stage we were at before the children.
my issue is I feel so unwanted in this relationship. Although the past few months he’s been telling me how he loves me, has found the love of his life etc his actions are quite the opposite at times.
there was a period of quite a few weeks recently where he couldn’t be without me. When at home he wanted me around him constantly even if it was just to sit beside him while he was working on his computer, or to hug in bed etc. then he goes through these stages where it’s like I’m not important at all.
for example tonight, things have been fine all day we have been talking and having a laugh/chilling together and then it comes to bed time and I could sense a shift and next thing he’s gone to bed by himself and closed the door (expecting me to sleep on the sofa). It bothers me a lot as there was not any issues to have caused this and it makes me feel so unwanted and unimportant.
also with our sex life - I would say it’s pretty good when we do have sex but we only do it when he wants to. Which can be 1/2 times a week max. He only generally wants it every 3ish days and sometimes will only be once a week. I was on my period for 2 weeks and he was completely against period sex (which is fine) but I’ve been off my period for nearly a week now and he still hasn’t attempted to have sex with me. He hinted at it today but didn’t make any move - KNOWING that I want to have sex and would everyday if I could. I also caNt come onto him as he doesn’t like that, so I just have to wait for when he makes the move.
safe to say I’m sitting on the sofa feeling pretty crap. Being a mother with no friends is very lonely anyway and he’s the only friend I really have so it’s really sad and lonely when he’s like this.
what do you all think?