How long will it take a guy to reach out after a breakup

[KiraChris]

Hi, my ex partner and me haven't spoken for just over 3 months. He has watched my WhatsApp stories etc soon as I put them on. He had blocked and unblocked me about 3 weeks ago. The first 4 to 7 weeks I heard nothing at all I wasn't putting stories up then.

Now he's had me solid blocked for 2 weeks no unblocking at all. We haven't actually spoken since beginning of September.

I am totally heartbroken but without sounding childish I can't reach out first as I have before and I need to see if he cares enough to not just talk becuase I message first.

How long does it take for a guy to miss you? And generally how long will it be before guys reach out and message you? Weeks? 2 months? 4 months? I know you can't give an exact time frame but generally or roughly?

I always found that if there was no other sex on offer, then most of my ex-boyfriends works be back in contact, eventually...

I had one of these. On and off for years. Eventually we got married. Bloody stupid mistake.

Just move on, it will take a while but you will find someone you dont dramatically breakup with. Someone who is nice and you have a lovely time with, and you don't cry.

Anyone who has reached out to me after an argument has done so after a few days. They use those days to work out a) what happened, and b) what they want going forward. I've used the time in the same way.

Tbf, though, I never played games or monitored them monitoring me on social media even for a week far less three months.

The only people I've seen 'get back together' after three months are couples who split whilst young/immature and find each other again decades later but they've lived actual lives in between i.e. not obsessed over the other one for that time.

Move on.

'Reaching out' after splitting up isn't a 'thing'. It's not what healthy people do.

Relationships end and people move on.

As someone else said, the only people who 'reach out' after a relationship are doing it for head fuck reasons unless there are children involved. It can lead to months of game playing.

I've never 'reached out' to anyone and have never wanted or expected anyone to 'reach out' to me. The one occasion when someone did, he was just indignant that I'd ended it and his ego seemingly didn't want me to have the last word on the matter.

Respectful people end a relationship and then leave the other person alone. What's the point of 'reaching out'?

He’s moved on permanently.

And how can you tell if someone has blocked you on WhatsApp?

Reaching out after a break up really isn’t a thing. So your question is unanswerable because there is no time frame for this, well other than “never”.

I don’t think that you necessary should be over him after only three months, but it is time to find the acceptance stage at least. It is over.

Actually, I did once "reach out" to an ex who ended it with me after 2 weeks of splitting. It was me desperately trying to see if I could rekindle things... We kind of dated for a bit but it didn't work out. But 3 months? No... that's far too long to expect someone to come back when you've not been in contact, at least with honourable intentions!

Most people don't normally reach out after a break up.

One of my ex's tried to hook up with me after breaking up with me because he had met someone else. It coincided with me getting my own place so I think he was after a shag.

That's what you need to be aware of. That he might contact you but not with the intention of getting back into a relationship with you.

I had an ex many, many years ago and when we split, we’d play these games of - who can ignore each other the longest, get back in contact.
I played all these scenarios in my head about how obsessively I wanted him back and how if we could just speak again, everything would be fine.
In actuality it was only ever for a bit of sex or company for trips to the cinema etc, there was never any consistent contact and when he even told me one day he considered that we were back together, that then got rescinded because I apparently hadn’t texted him very much, despite being too worried in my own head if I did, it would put him off and make me seem desperate and beggy, after all we had been through.
It was all very childish, messed up my head and ways of thinking/behaving rationally and I wasted so much of my time on this dream we’d get back together and it would be perfect, if we could only start speaking again.

The best thing to do is move on. Like others have said, if it was wanted to get back together, it would’ve happened by now and definitely not in the way of blocking/unblocking or testing each other. It’s a harsh thing to realise and I’m sorry but it does get better, only if you clear the space in your head to allow you.

It's not clear if either of you formally ended the relationship or you had an argument and have been giving each other the silent treatment since to see who breaks first. If it's the latter then you both need to grow up. Ignoring someone is not a healthy or mature way to resolve differences.

Either way this relationship is over and you need to accept that rather than holding out hope. It will be painful for a time, possibly made worse by regret, but you will get over it and move on. Stop monitoring his internet in your SM, it won't help you.