How do I stop doing this? I’ve been on a few dates with someone I really like, have slept with him now also. He isn’t a massive texter but has always text me first after each date, including the last one, but though I replied I’ve since let the conversation trail off. I’m not deliberately doing this as a treat em mean keep em keen sort of strategy but I am conscious of this pattern I often get into in dating where I act very aloof and unbothered (at least when I’m not actually with the person) for fear of seeming needy. I am scared he will think I am not interested but at the same time if I engage a bit more I am scared he will think I am needy, the idea of being someone who when he looks at his phone and sees my name he thinks is mithering him is awful. Any tips please! I really don’t want to self sabotage.