Do I Tell My Ex?

[Advicepleaze]

I’ve been separated/divorced for 5 years now. Two kids who see their dad weekly. Ex has moved on and has a new partner of about 3 years.

when married we lived in a small town and when we split up I moved a few miles away. I have been dating someone for a year now who is from the original small town, still lives there and who we both knew socially before we split. Although my ex and new partner haven’t seen each other socially for many years.

So this weekend I decided it was time to tell my kids about new partner and they are pleased for me that I am happy. I told ex a while ago that I am seeing someone and planned to tell the kids but I didn’t tell him exactly who it is. My question -
do I need to tell my ex or just let him find out himself? It shouldn’t matter to him, we have been apart so long but because it’s someone he knows I don’t want him to react badly towards the kids. What would you do?

Hiya - it’s nothing to do with your ex, you don’t owe him any information. If he finds out via the kids then, so what ?
I hope you’re very happy with your new beau, OP x

If you think there's a chance he might react badly about it, it might be a good idea to hive him a heads up so that he has time to digest the news before he see the kids

No don't tell him do not rock the boat. He may not find out just leave it OP

I don’t think he will react badly to the kids as such, but I might get some nasty messages - don’t suppose that really matters though. I’m quite used to that!