Arguments with DH about getting heating

[heidihiii]

The last few days have been a running argument with my DH regarding the bloody heating. He is being a skin flint ..

I even offered to pay the entire energy bill from my money I get from part time work.

It's completely unreasonable to have a cold house with young children

Ok, then you need to find out how to work the heating. Is it likely next door has the same system, can you ask them? Otherwise YouTube is your friend.

Sorry but these threads are now getting ridiculous. OP, how on earth can you not know how to work the heating?.

It's ok guys, I've sorted it.

I'll be in for an argument when he gets home though

@heidihiii

I would put the heating on regardless. Or tell him your buy those heaters with plugs and the electric will run high and you and children not going to freeze for him.

He does sound very controlling and it's time you left him.

He's in a warm pub while you're in a cold house with small children. Bloody right there should b an argument when he gets home but it shouldn't be him winning that argument.

Let me guess, he's financially abusive and you're in a situation where it would be hard to leave?

Surely the argument comes because he thinks he has any right to completely over rule you regarding the heating?

Repeat 'I have chosen to put the heating on because I am cold/the children are cold/the dogs are cold/the house is cold' delete as appropriate.

Repeat repeat. This sort of situation stems from him thinking he has overall say. He should not.

I bet he's not just controlling with the heating.

Excellent. He’s in a warm pub right now drinking expensively. Seems fair.

Oh how lovely for him to be in the nice warm pub while his partner and children are freezing.

Just the fact that you've not put it on with him being out of the house and don't know how are massive red flags.

Leave him and then you can heat your house how you like. Can't be that much of a skinflint if he's at the boozer.

Gosh what a sad situation to be living in

There's a whole story to be told regarding me and him..

I will be leaving next year

It's 100% not OK for him to be spending money in the pub but refusing to "allow" you to put the heating on, hopefully you can see that.
How can he justify spending money on beer but not on his family? If, as a family, you genuinely are that hard up he needs to cut the pub out. Family should be his priority.

Just seen your update. Glad you have plans to leave. You clearly deserve better x

I will be leaving next year

Good for you. All the very best with your plans!

The heating for the evening will cost about 2 pints.

Does that put it in perspective.