Been seeing a man for 9 months. I am keen on him. The big problem I have is that very often when he says he is going to call me, he doesn’t.
He initiates everything and has pursued me a lot. Over this period he has organised and paid several big things for us to do together (3 holidays/mini breaks, days out at fancy UK events, our dates, meals, theatre shows etc.)
this is all great of course, but inbetween that time he will be in touch on text each day and ask me specifically if he can call me to catch up and when. So we’ll have a whole text conversation about when is a good time (between work and DC as we are both divorced.) the time then comes and he doesn’t call. I see him on WhatsApp “online.” He is not expecting me to call him as his schedule is the most complicated and he’s made it clear.
it was so bad one week where he kept instigating conversations about calls and then not calling, I told him I thought we should leave it (the whole relationship.) I explained why. I said I need to know when I am going to hear from you and I never do.
at the end of that particular week we were supposed to go to Paris (a trip organised by him.) I didn’t go as we had broken up. He has since held this over my head whenever I have the conversation about calling.
we got back together post Paris after he promised to stop doing it. But he’s doing it again. When I brought it up he said why are you making such a big deal of this? We see each other 1-2 times a week organised by me, “you stood me up in Paris,” how should I be on the back foot all the time about calling? I have also stopped replying to his daily texts trying to organise a call because what’s the point!
it’s the little things… isn’t it? Just to re-iterate I am keen on him and we get on well. But surely? Am I being stupid? I suppose my question or advice seeking is - how else do I communicate this??