I've posted on here many times whilst in the relationship about my struggles
But from Sept he walked out on me and the kids (only 4&5yrs old) which we spent yrs trying to have. He jumped to the next supply within 2 weeks whilst all this time looking to come back to me. Lots of love bombing which I shamefully fell for. He's been out of the home for 10-11weeks now and yesterday sent me messages declaring his love for me and wanting to come home to his family again. Last night he came to see the kids and put them to bed. Afterwards in an embrace he asked me to clear my whatsapp messages from him which I foolishly did as I thought he was going to declare us having a fresh start and because I was pulled in again, hook line and sinker and done it.
Only then to be told he had gotten this other girl pregnant and she's about 5 weeks gone.
He told me he didn't want to be with her he wants to be home with me and our kids and his regrets etc and how he had tried to break it off until she produced a positive pregnancy test a few days ago.
I told him this coukd never work, and the messed up part is this girl is related to me.
I dont quite know how to cope with this news, how I'm going to deal with it and then deal with him playing happy families with my kids along with his new baby. Not only that but last week we ended up getting intimate ourselves whilst he obviously knew she was thinking she was pregnant and the next day talked me into getting the morning after pill and now it all makes sense why he was eager for me to take the pill. I feel like a fool.
After he left I was able to retrieve the WhatsApp messages he made me delete as he's afraid of me showing these to people especially now. Plus all my evidence of how control took place in the relationship was in those messages so I'm glad I was able to retrieve them as I can see now he has manipulated me all over again and I foolishly allowed it. I don't know how to cope with all of this and him having a baby so soon after leaving me. This is the baby he plagued me to have for the last 2 yrs but I didn't feel ready for baby no.3 and was told if I didn't go again he would leave, which ultimately he did and also because I didn't give him enough attention or intercourse (in his words any man would go elsewhere) 😔
I just don't how to cope with the fact he's doing this so soon and with someone who is 14 yrs younger than him and related to me.