My husband is always working, or going to two choirs, visiting his father, going to the gym, on his computer, or anything other than spending time with me.
I dont expect us to be joined at the hip, but he knows that I am going through menopause, both children at university, and this is a big life change for both of us.I thought it would be a chance to get closer, but he just seems to be on a mission of doing stuff alone.I know I can get more hobbies, interests etc and do my own thing, but there is a limit surely to how seperate your lives are.It makes me feel unwanted and bad.He said lets book a table and go out for a meal, and then lands it on me that he is working overtime tommorrow, it feels like I am an afterthought, a box to be ticked, I dont want him working every weekend, he has a big pension, and we are not desperate for the money.I can see us drifting apart at this rate, I know its quite common at our stage in life, but I feel really lonely right now and I am not sure what to do, I can talk to him about it forever and he still doesnt get it