I should be use to this but it's killing me

[Sweetheartgal]

I thought I would be use to being let down from men.
Getting to know them then all of a sudden they back off and sometimes we stop talking all together.
Just why do they draw you in make you feel so like you mean something then you don't mean anything?

I am so glad I saw this person true colours. But at the same time I feel hurt.

I know this person not worth it anyway but just wish I didn't open up tell them so much. Feel like a fool right now.

Honestly don't even want to get to know another man like this again.

I feel we both held back a lot from each other. I feel he wasn't completely honest with me and I guess I haven't too.

Probably best we stop these games move on.

Are these men you've actually met in real life? Men you've been in a relationship with? Men you're talking to online?

People disappearing when you're talking online, even after a date, is normal. You shouldn't be oversharing at this stage. Why do you believe you mean something to them? You wouldn't overshare with a stranger in a pub, would you? And you wouldn't believe you meant something to them after a bit of chatting.

Are these men you've actually met in real life? Men you've been in a relationship with? Men you're talking to online?

People disappearing when you're talking online, even after a date, is normal. You shouldn't be oversharing at this stage. Why do you believe you mean something to them? You wouldn't overshare with a stranger in a pub, would you? And you wouldn't believe you meant something to them after a bit of chatting.

In this case known this person a number of years. They came back into my life 2020 and yet we met each other several times.

I wish I never let them back in my life. We both just not being honest so in a way don't blame him for cutting me off. We both have situations he said we are friends from start. But this one weird friendship.

So it's best we do go out separate ways. Just angry at myself and angry at him. I shock block move on but feel like I need to blow up at him first letting everything out.

But I have met men online and off and so done letting them be close to me. It depends on the guy who touches you emotionally and feel a more connection or feeling towards. This one think it's he emotionally got to me and think he knows it why he backed off.

I know I get there one day and cut him off completely.

Maybe it's something about the circumstances which brought him back into your life in 2020 that might help you understand why he changed?
Think about how you two came to be back in contact in 2020. Was he or you going through difficult times? Has his situation now changed?
You feel hurt and angry that he's backed off but it might not be about you. It might be about what else is going on in his life.

You say i wish I didn't tell them so much and we held back a lot from each other?

Seems like you are overthinking everything. Perhaps try and just live in the moment a bit more.

If you are having some fun, enjoying time spent with someone then great. Forget about them in between seeing them, don't stare at your phone waiting for a message, don't jump when it pings and keep your mysteries until you feel more sure they are worthy of knowing a bit more about you.

This seemed familiar somehow. OP is this you?
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4667478-feel-so-upset-now
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4646583-i-wont-block-but-cant-respond

Either way, you were posting about this yesterday. I thought you’d decided to finally block him? Why start a whole new thread to continue analysing? Just go do the very easy thing you'd decided to do!
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4676225-now-to-heal-myself

I think I am just just so angry with myself at the moment.

I have calmed down now.

I think he shown me who he really is now.

I think I did that not just about him but so many guys have come and gone you think I get use this by now.

Same with friendships people have let me down letting them back in my life only to show me I mean nothing to them.

Next time don't bother trying to reconnect with me.

I think I am a lot better now.

Is this man married? Perhaps he had marital difficulties when he contacted you but then those difficulties got fixed and now he doesn't need to talk to you?

Probably could be the case.

Well obviously I was right about his intentions from the start. This so called friendship wasn't a friendship.

It's fine at least I didn't fall into the trap and he showed his true colours.