Yep they all work in a similar pattern. They find a woman and they charm her. They spoil her. They tell you things like your their soul mate. They seem amazing. Then they start bringing other women into the scenario into a triangle situation. They begin insulting you. Backhanded compliments. They start making you feel worthless by telling you other women look like this and you just do that. They get paranoid and bully you about phone use. About who yours friends with. Yet they're on dating apps and god knows what taking the phone to the bathroom to chat to other women. They are absolute loosers in every sense of the word.
Everything with my ex was exhausting. He made issues out of sex. He was never happy. Always complaining. Always skint.
Future faking all the nonsense of you wait until I've got money amd I'll get you this and that and we will go here.
I can laugh a little bit now. But therapist pointed out the next step might have been a slap.
If you want some suggestions.
A mind map and write facts around his name.
Get 2 pieces of paper. On one write down what you want from a relationship.
On the other write down what your relationship was.
My words I had to say to myself from my therapist was
It's over now.
He's gone.
I'm done with with that now.
He's toxic.
It's really difficult to go cold turkey..my ex did me a favour he blocked me for 5 months. After 9 weeks he didn't stand a chance. Before then I may have weakened..but now he could come back sniffing around today and I've lost all respect for him and so it wouldn't matter to me.
I never got my closure. I have so many questions and doubts. So much anger about how things were left. How he's spread lies and those lies were so disgusting when I had paid for him to live for months. They tend to destroy your reputation as a final kick in the teeth. But as long as you jeep an email trail or whatever amd stay firm. You have your bum covered.
I went to the police in july because I wanted it on record as he was saying some ridiculous stuff. He left property st my house for 4 months after and I ended up having to post it back to his family because I needed him gone. When he found out I had sent it he emailed me this angry message and said that I had stolen his passport and he was reporting me. He had made out he was too scared to get his own things and he says the police told him not to come near me alone so a cousin was going to drive 2 hours and gwt it for him. I told them both to get stuffed and sent it myself..ibwas absolutely sick of the games by then. But he probably wanted to leave it here for a way back in one day.