Ppl laughing at you how to deal

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I had a thread on this forum recently about someone that I liked . Labeling me as " funny," which did please initially me as I thought that he might liked me but them remembered that being described as funny wasn't a nice memory. I have letting him go in my head. But I really to contact him again for work purposes. To which I'm dreading but that's ok. But thanks to all that replied.
The story of my thread. I haven't being formally diagnosed with ADHD the attentive type. (Add). It's not something that I wish to pursue or want to take medicine for. ( My own personal reasons).
But it's a relief to know what I have to finally understand the things that I do.

I'm the classic case of oversharing , excited, blabber on.
A couple of weeks ago we on a night out and someone that gave me a number and I was talking about it with some girls I knew briefly. We one of them I knew very well and the other not so much. The other not much girl said " don't be so full on with him. Or scare them.

. I get while they meant it from a good place. But it still annoyed me. I really not that bad tbh. I put on a happy face while I'm out with others to mask my problem ( sometimes). But when I'm at home I usually in general very lonely and bored. Hence I overshare while I'm excited.

I remembered in school at times I struggle to find friends ( not always) but back then ppl had their groups. and I dreaded lunchtime so I often I act up like a clown so ppl will like me for context purposes.
Why am I writing this thread is today at work I was talking to my line manager a woman. Who like me is a chatty interested sort of person. Who I did happen to like. So I have an upcoming holiday and I was blabbing on about something else. While she was talking to me she was working on her computer. And the lady in the next door office but works under a different settings.
Who I only just say hello to and goodbye to. I don't particularly like her as she kinda looks down on me. ( You just know).
The other lady appeared her head around the door and said that she " received her message on screen" and got me to some tedious admin stuff and at the stage I sort to feel humiliated.

As I realised that my other boss wanted me out of the way. But she couldn't say that. As I said I had no business doing her work for other reasons. But as I left the room I could them laugh especially the other lady . I just felt so hulimated I know in future I try not to talk much in therr any more but when are living with add or ADHD it not easy. I hate when ppl laugh at like that.

No if was not doing politely which is the reason I was very upset. The sneaky message, she was looking at me like with recoil and that was 5he only reason she came in to get rid of me. The two were laughing behind my back hysterically. Afterwards
I do get at times I know i need to tone it down . It's only ppl that really know me knows.
I'm not like that with everyone . Part of my problem sometimes if I knew them and they are nice to me I might overshare as I felt comfortable.
As I said before meds are not a option .

One time I visited my friend before. She was like I don't get to see you often.come up anytime. I lived 10 mins max . So I popped in I picked at time that she usually likes me to visit. for about 10ins max.
Well whatever drama she was going through she took it out on me, made me feel very small, and I felt very hurt but I didn't shown it too her. But at least she never laughed at me like that a big hysterical laugh. And I never returned to her house since I say hello and small chit chat and no more since. When passing her. But I have no time for her now and I won't we with them in future.

ADHD is a physical condition.
You don’t get enough dopamine to parts of the brain where it is needed.
If you looked at a scan of a NT persons brain and one of a ND persons brain they would be different. Our brains are wired differently

Saying you don’t want to be diagnosed and to take meds is the equivalent to thinking you have diabetes but don’t want to be diagnosed or take insulin. Both ADHD and diabetes will shorten your life.
Average lifespan for someone with ADHD is a lot shorter than a NT person. Probably because we do things randomly and without warning especially unmedicated.

I know for me (probably because I have gone through the menopause) the meds aren’t a game changer with regards to quietening my brain so I can think of one thing at a time.Very occasionally they do and for those few hours I can get so much done. It feels amazing and I think if I had a brain of a NT person I think I would be running my own hugely profitable company now so it makes me sad that I can’t get my brain in gear to get things done.

However the meds do keep me awake. I was permanently knackered before being diagnosed. I couldn’t say I was really living as I just felt completely overwhelmed and tired all of the time. I couldn’t go more than a few hours without having to have a nap for an hour.
Also because I was always snacking, I thought to get the energy to stay awake but I think having read up on it I was visiting the fridge to get a dopamine hit. My brain was trying to get enough dopamine to function so having a snack upped my dopamine levels and I was definitely in the obese category.

ADHD meds can make your heart rate go up. When I was diagnosed and put on meds I was at an age where it is notoriously difficult for a woman to lose a significant amount of weight. But because I now don’t have to get my dopamine from the multiple snacks I used to have each day I have lost 4 stone in weight and it is still coming off me (probably around 2-3lbs per month now without really trying)

My heart rate has actually reduced with being on meds. I think if I had continued the way I was I was definitely heading for a heart attack so to me Meds have been nothing short of a lifesaver.

You don’t just take them if you are at school or university. They are there to help you with your life.
I can really identify with over sharing. I still probably do it but I know it has definitely reduced.

I went through the menopause before I was diagnosed and started on meds and always wonder if I took HRT or if I was diagnosed earlier what my life would look like now.

I know given what has happened on a personal basis that without meds I would more than likely be homeless now.

With meds I am just keeping my head above water.

Diagnosed and started on meds even 20 years ago and I think my life would be so much better.

Do go for a diagnosis and do try meds. If you think they don’t help then at least you tried them (there are different meds you can try, stimulant and non stimulant types)

Even if you get diagnosed as a disability people who you work with wouldn’t be allowed to laugh at you for something that is part of your disability.