How do you deal with someone who talks about themselves all the time?

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In my friendship group there's a woman who does this. Whatever the subject, she drags it back to herself. Plus she's Scottish (I'm in England) and you'd think being Scottish makes you some kind of chosen race, the way she always has to mention it.
I imagine that a fair number of posters will think I'm being bitchy, but it just gets tedious.

Does anyone else in your group feel the same?

People like this ARE tedious. I just avoid engaging with them?

Maybe it’s a poor attempt at relating to people. If she has a shared experience then she’s demonstrating that she empathises and understands what you are saying maybe?

I've talked about it with one other woman, and agrees. But I don't want to talk about it with the others.

And you shouldn’t.

who organiser the get togethers and how frequent?

It's very fluid, every couple of weeks when we can do it.

I just don't engage with people like this and if I absolutely have to spend time with them I give them about as much attention and interest as they give me. Sometimes I say "is there anything you want to know about me?"

I have a friend like this. Sometimes she will find out I've been somewhere/done something and says 'I didn't realise you were doing X'. That's because I can never get a word in edgeways. I see less of her because I just find it so draining.

Some people are just not interested in other people at all and think they are the most interesting person in a room. You won't change her mind about that. If she talks incessantly, all you can do is interrupt or start another topic with someone else - eg she's banging on about her boring holiday so you say over her to someone else, 'how was your week away, Jane - did you get to Paris?' Or she's droning on about her driveway being tarmacked so you say to someone else, 'did you get your building work finished in the end?' And so on until maybe other people get the same idea. Generally this sort of bore is used to being interrupted at work or by their family, so they probably won't take offence. You're doing then a favour.

My step mother always turns any conversation around to talk about herself, and that’s fine with me because I hate talking about myself. I just listen thinking to myself “yes it’s all about YOU stepmother isn’t it”.

She does think she’s the most important person. 🤭🤔😤

I used to know someone like that, gradually everyone in the group stopped including her. I kept in contact for a while, but it was hard work and eventually the friendship drifted. I think she was lonely, even though married with kids I don’t think her family paid her much attention. I didn’t know her well enough to tell her that if she just engaged with others a bit more she’d have friends. She was also Scottish, but didn’t go on about it.

My friend is like this all the time.

It's very annoying it's all about her. You can try telling her about you but it's always brought back to her.