So I met up with someone I knew of (but had never met, we worked in different departments in the same workplace) after connecting on Facebook at the end of August this year.
Things went well and we ended up meeting up again, had a few more dates all seemed okay. After a month or so I started realising we were just two completely different people. He’s older than me by 9 years, wasn’t sure he wanted kids and I already have one child from a previous relationship. On top of that I’ve been having a really awful time with some family issues as well as my physical and mental health and I just wanted to break it off and focus on myself.
I had a conversation with him, explained everything, told him I’d had a great time but i just wasn’t feeling it and that I had a lot going on and wanted to end things. He took it well and seemed okay, but he’d still message me constantly. At first I’d reply and just make polite conversation, but he’d constantly ask if he could come over or try make plans with me; despite me saying no.
Eventually I just stopped replying, this was around 2/3 weeks ago. I don’t know if this was the right thing to do but I was finding it really overwhelming and I thought maybe me responding was giving him the wrong idea.
Since then he has messaged me 8 times on all of my different social media platforms, texting me, calling me, saying he wants to meet up again and doesn’t want to never speak to me again and begging me for a reply.
I need to send him a message and just tell him to stop but I’m afraid he might turn up to my house. He knows where I live, I’m here alone with my son most of the time. My friends have said to just block him since he had already had a response from me, but I feel like he’d definitely turn up then
What do I do?