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How can I leave my partner?

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yellaa · 23/11/2022 13:20

I'm 24 and have a 1 year old daughter. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years and I really want to leave him. He's thrown me various hurdles through the years; a porn addiction, emotional abuse, financial abuse. I can't handle it anymore.
He works for minimum wage as a cook and I quit my minimum wage job after my maternity leave to persue a degree, hoping we would be financially better in the long-term.
Is there any way I could leave him? I don't see it being financially possible. How could I afford rent and childcare with one minimum wage job? I dream of being free but it seems like I'd be just as unhappy in a different way. I have no family to help me - my parents were abusive too.
I wish someone could wave a magic wand and get me out of here, or at least tell me how to leave.

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ICanHideButICantRun · 23/11/2022 13:21

Are you a student now or working? If you're a student, is there anyone working at the uni who could give you financial advice?

Watchkeys · 23/11/2022 14:06

There'll be a way.

Have a go of this. Experiment with different scenarios and see which way you'd be better off.

And well done for taking the step of asking on a forum: first step to escape!

Berthatydfil · 23/11/2022 14:22

Approach your student welfare service. They may be able to signpost you to help and support

Watchkeys · 23/11/2022 15:31

benefits-calculator.turn2us.org.uk/

I forgot to add the whole point of my comment, sorry!

Quiegal · 24/11/2022 03:49

yellaa · 23/11/2022 13:20

I'm 24 and have a 1 year old daughter. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years and I really want to leave him. He's thrown me various hurdles through the years; a porn addiction, emotional abuse, financial abuse. I can't handle it anymore.
He works for minimum wage as a cook and I quit my minimum wage job after my maternity leave to persue a degree, hoping we would be financially better in the long-term.
Is there any way I could leave him? I don't see it being financially possible. How could I afford rent and childcare with one minimum wage job? I dream of being free but it seems like I'd be just as unhappy in a different way. I have no family to help me - my parents were abusive too.
I wish someone could wave a magic wand and get me out of here, or at least tell me how to leave.

Phone women's aid and they will help you.

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