My partner and I have been in each others life a little over three years. We have no shared children but I have a dd who he has bonded with over said years.
He seemed amazing at first, met my family and friends and eventually my dd. After a while we moved in together but he decided this isn't what he wanted anymore and moved back home (3hrs away). It was up and down( mainly down) from there. After a while he blocked me out of no where for over a month.
We rekindled. It took a long time but trust had rebuilt and we started seeing each other again, last night I wanted to discuss our future as I wanted assurance it's going somewhere this time. My dd has enough going on with her dad moving away and struggling in school and also going through diagnosis for adhd, so I wanted no further confusion.
I explained my goals were to eventually move in together and I desperately want another child marriage is also a goal. But not for a few years. I wanted him to know id want it one day. He told me he needed to think.
Later he came back to me and said he loves me& my dd however he couldn't imagine ever living with anyone. He didn't ever want to move in and doesn't want a child however he would marry me in the future and live in separate houses, again 3 hrs apart. This is ridiculous right? I feel I know what I have to do but I just need opinions.
We had a similar conversation when getting together in which he responses were very different. When I got upset he told me "well maybe I'll change my mind one day"