another OLD one

[picklesy]

NC to rant.

Why is it so shit? Honestly. Emotionally unavailable, people only split from their ex for five minutes, secret wives, controlling behaviour, ghosting, the lot. Think I have filled my "OLD nightmares" bingo card.

Starting to think that it's me!! (I say that mostly in jest, honest)

You don’t have to use it I’m not sure why so many use it then complain

You seem like a red flag. I've probably matched with you in the past

You complain yet continue to use it? What do you want people to say? Meet people irl if old is so bad?

Yeah, cos it's so easy to meet people irl. Ffs, why do you think OLD was invented.
OP - don't be disheartened. I reckon I found one decent one in every 30 and am now in a long term relationship with someone I met online.

Men are the same whether you meet in real
Life or online

It can feel so dire! I did meet a lovely man on it eventually.

not what everyone says on here! Old is apparently where the worst of the worst men are posters are often advised to meet someone irl

And tbh the best men are unlikely to need old as they can meet women irl which is probably why old is so bad

This has cheered me up I have to say

Don't think I've ever seen anything positive said about OLD but still people get drawn to it

A post earlier said that 100% of the men on there are ugly. I can only think that the woman making the claim must have been a Dua Lipa lookalike

I hate OLD and will never use it again. I've had all those things happen to me that you listed so do not take it personally. Its literally the cesspit of society lol. I know there are some good people on there but they are few and far between. Just delete all apps.

I enjoy it, but then I just like meeting people and anything more is a bonus. I also have a liking for emotionally repressed men …less messy.

I thought I'd found a good one. Haven't heard from them for a fortnight. Just disappeared off the face of the earth. No explanation, no nothing.

I know people say these things are more a reflection on them than you but it's difficult isn't it.

Onwards we go!

People use it because they hope to meet somebody decent. They expect decency because they are decent folk.

Then they find out just what OP has described - it is full of indecent people.
That disappoints their hopes, & they feel the need to complain about it, as does any normal person who feels let down.

There!
Wasn't SO very hard to understand, was it @SpinningFloppa ?

😂😂😂

I've just gone through my phone contacts to double check but I know 6 people who met their now wife/husband on OLD.

It might be that we are all Christians and maybe Christian sites have a better track record...I don't know. But yeah, 6 couples ain't bad.

My DP and I met on OLD. It was on a lesser-known, special interest site though (for people who love music and the arts). Both of us agree we had far better experiences on there than the more mainstream cater-to-all sites like Tinder, PoF, Match, etc (which were as you describe). Likewise, a friend met her husband on a site catering for people who like outdoorsy things. I think they tend to attract people who are a bit more serious about finding a partner and know what they want/themselves more.

Might be worth investigating something similar if you haven’t tried already.

@QuicheandMustard think your experience adds weight to my post just now!

Don't give up hope @picklesy!!!

Yes, it's AWFUL and SOUL DESTROYING. And to be honest, the vast majority of men are fugly and emotionally crippled.

There is hope though. I'm 18 months into a hopefully forever relationship with a wonderful man I met OLD. I just had to kiss a few ~lot~ frogs to get to him.

It's timing. The right one just has to appear.

I used to take a break when I was feeling fatigued with it. Then after a while realised I could face it again so gave it another go.

He's my third relationship from OLD. First was just not right for me, second was a twat, third is hopefully it.

I've had a lot of dates.....

Ahh lovely post @Minikievs! I have been on quite a few dates, some fizzle out after one or two, some have lasted a few months. None have really been right for me.

It is all down to luck - and so many of the same faces when you go back on after a while!!

I am only on my 30s. It shouldn't be this difficult!!

Thanks for the other responses too - I wish I had a niche!

Nope. Not you.

I did OLD for 3 years and found is so frustrating. All my single friends have had the same shitty type of experiences over and over again. It's shit.

I met dp old, there's gems out there

There's cheaters and liars but there is in real life too

But to give you some hope, i did end up finding a keeper and we've been together for 3 years now. I also know 2 married couples who started on tinder.

You have to keep going until you can add Catfish and scammers to your list. 😂