Prepared to be told that I am the issue.
If it is me, how do I get over it?
Both DH and I work full time, we have 3 children, two cats.
This time of year DH is able to collect DS3 after work, by this time I'm usually home writing up notes, conference notes, some stressful bollocks.
I take the extra half an hour I have to do more work.
Then they come home, the older two are home and instantly DH disappears.
He sits on the bed to make a roll-up while watching YouTube then meanders outside to smoke and look at his phone.
Mean while I'm doing this mornings washing up that I didn't have time to do whilst sorting out myself and three kids (he leaves for work before all of us), in cooking dinner for the kids, cleaning out the litter tray, answering 1846274 child questions and then he strolls back in when the cooking is nearly done, the washing up is sorted, the cat litter is clean and I'm about to do the three year olds bed time while he sits down to dinner.
Ive asked him countless times to not go off and smoke and help out during that mental time.
Apparently he is innocent and im just in a bad mood.
And while im on the subject, I've asked him a million times to flush his piss away so we don't walk into the bathroom to the smell of his brown urine.
He continues to do it. I swear I've asked him 10 times at least.
On the weekend he will just wonder out the house to fix his car or smoke, or go on the roof or do what he pleases when he wants.
And it's really starting to fuck me off.
we have been together well over 20 years and I have asked him NUMEROUS times not to just fuck off out.
if I did that, the kids would be totally left unattended.
Ive posted about this before but not for a few years I just need to get it off my chest