What do I do?

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Back story to this is I have been seeing a guy who is perfect in every way, kind, funny, deep emotional and physical connection. We have had a great time over last 7 months but he has recently shared that he believes someone is breaking into his house and moving things around following a heated argument with someone. I am not sure whether these are persecutory delusions but am worried that it indicates deep rooted issues. WWYD in this situation?

Help him install cameras, photograph the place, basically believe him. He must be terrified. Help him to prove it. If it's not true help him to learn that but start from belief.

Be as wary as you are. It’s very unlikely anyone is breaking into his house to move things around. I wouldn’t be keen to pursue a relationship with someone with delusions of persecution and paranoia. My brother suffers from them as part of his mental illness and it’s exhausting to listen to.

Thank you posters! Pictish, how long has your brother had these delusions for and is he able to live normally aside from these?

They started when he was about 19 and he’s 53 now. We’ve had people breaking into and/or watching his flat before. He can’t hear that it’s his illness talking when it happens to him as although he has insight with hindsight, while it’s happening to him it’s absolutely real. No point saying otherwise because he just gets stressed and angry and accuses me of stupidity and blindness with a big ranty, pointy finger. It’s hard work.

My brother’s illness is quite severe so he doesn’t work.

Could be the beginnings of schizophrenia or something similar. Memory issues maybe...early onset altizimers... has he seen a gp?

What makes you sure its a delusion in the first place though? I mean, could someone have a key to his home? How long has he lived there? Hell, maybe it's a poltergeist xD

My brother has very similar...thinks people are trying to break in to his flat, listening to him through the walls.
He was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia years ago after a 2 week stay in a mental institution, but absolutely refuses medication to help control it.
It's absolutely exhausting to deal with.

its really useful to hear others views and experiences, i’m just gutted as in every other aspect its brilliant! i want to believe him but it just seems too far fetched and outlandish.
my friends say i should get out now!

Well I mean it could be an ex who is sneaking in and messing his stuff about to fuvk with him. Tell him to change his locks and see if it changes. And suggest he see his gp 'just incase'. You're under no obligation to stay with him but personally I'd be honest about why I was walking away in this scenario so that he may be kore inclined to seek help.

What typically happens is my brother has an epiphany of remarkable wellbeing (which is really the onset of a psychotic episode) and he stops taking his meds because he doesn’t need them. Next thing you know, he’s sky high because the Masons want him hospitalised and drugged. He knows and speaks the truth about them (which is really a largely incoherent conspiracy delusion).
Once he has been sectioned and his meds rebalanced he comes back down to earth and can see it for what it is, until the next time.

Does he smoke cannabis?

Be open minded at this stage… my friend’s ex used to let himself into her flat (he’d copied a key) and used to take odd things, move things around. It does happen

I would also be open minded at this stage...stranger things have happened. Obviously monitor the situation and support him in either proving/disproving his suspicions. It's not wrong to get out at any point though.

I say this as another one with a schizophrenic brother.

No, he doesn’t smoke weed. It’s just so odd as on every other level he is rational and we have been getting in so well. He’s very much open and reflective apart from this. I did wonder if recent stress has exacerbated it and also about the ex scenario as there is history there. i guess I am hoping against hope it’s not a sign of anything else but the posters experiences of mental health issues with family members also make me wonder.

What is wrong with me?? I have posted before about being in an 8 month relationship with a bf who revealed persecutory delusions. I decided to continue to see him and over time feelings grew stronger! For the last few months, he hasnt been working and I have really tried to help him with this by creating him CVs, helping him with job applications etc yet, despite having strong skills as a qualified electrician has not found a job.
This means he cant move out of his marital home where he has been living since he separated a year ago. It also means that I pay for everything and I mean everything which is difficult as I am financially stretched myself. I have gone along with it as the feelings were so strong and I was refusing to see it as being used.
I have now asked more recently about the status and future of our relationship and he maintains he is taking it slow and refuses to “define” it other than we are seeing each other! I felt so disappointed and used as when together he acts like we are a couple etc and so I decided to end it as too many red flags such as he also has no friends etc.
My dilemma is that, as a rational, logical person , why am
i so devastated that its over when I know its wrong on every level and I deserve more? Any advice, wise words!