Estranged husband - Help!

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So, I have been married for 17 years & husband said he wants time out - that was 2 months ago. He said we can work this out, then changed his mind & said sorry! It’s over and became very cold. Since then I have been home but he won’t stay in the same house as me, has visited me for a couple of hours & been out for lunch. We are getting a divorce (his choice) as he said to go forward we need to end this phase of our relationship & start afresh - dating etc & getting to know each other again. I love him and agreed. Digress a few years back - we weren’t very close sexually - Menopause & depression plus covid hit & husband lost his business & we have debt.
Fast forward, I am leaving home to work in the UK - live in carer (we live in France) for 2 months - he has gone cold on me again & it seems that seeing each other is on his terms, I have asked to go for lunch - didn’t mention it again as he didn’t seem keen. I asked for him to come for dinner the day before I leave, he said I’ll see what time I finish work & will pop in for a coffee but didn’t want dinner. We have passionately kissed so that is not an issue but he seems to get scared and become cold again.
I’m so confused & feel very heartbroken.
should I move on? Or see what happens when I’m next home? Thanks

He wants a divorce, but he's afraid of your reaction, so he's keeping you sweet with a false claim that you can date and start again at the same time as getting divorced - that's a crazy idea and most likely a total lie set up so that you will roll over and give him an easy divorce, probably with favourable financial terms in his favour. Any chance he could have some money squirreled away that he doesn't want you to get your hands on?
He's totally playing you, whilst likely dating others and was probably having an affair initially when you split. I doubt he has any intention of getting back together.

I don’t think he has any money as we still have joint accounts - his Dad May leave him some money - but still alive & healthy.
we jointly own the house in France, that’s the only financial property or anything we have together, as I said we are in debt, the biggest part of the debt is in his name only.
we have decided to keep the house for now & in time May sell it. French law both parties get 50/50.

If you are moving countries and he isn't, isn't it over anyway?

I just work away 2 months & home for 2 months - it’s a must for financial reasons.
I still live in France.

I dont think being able to hard reset a marriage and go back to dating is in any way acceptable. Is it possible there's someone else? If its all on his terms I would genuinely brush yourself off and move on. Thats not a relationship.