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Male and friends and acquaintances being rude

8 replies

Zoftspins · 22/11/2022 15:39

I introduced my boyfriend to some males friends. A couple were really pleased for me. Some of these men who were more acquaintances were really annoyed that I brought him out and am no longer single as in the past they try and flirt and ask me out but I am not interested. I got looks of disgust from some of them. Why do they think they have been single for so long, they don't have much going for them and come across as controlling. How do I handle these men if they do this again as I don't like hostility from their part? My boyfriend is fantastic and I don't think they like that he was good looking too (he is not model looking).

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ComtesseDeSpair · 22/11/2022 15:47

Why are you spending time with people who you don’t appear to like and who don’t appear to like or respect you? Make new friends, life is too short for this sort of drama.

Pinkbonbon · 22/11/2022 15:49

You dont see these men again. Why would yoi worry about 'handling' assholes. Just don't surround yourself with them in the firstplace. You see who they are now so there's no reason to kero them around

Also, men who fancy you are not your friends. They are men who fancy you.

Plus, now you have a bf so you certainly shouldn't be associating with these men anymore as it would be disrespectful to him.

Pinkbonbon · 22/11/2022 15:52

Also, if you think men are controlling or unkind, do not associate with them. Because other women will see you with them and assume they must be decent men if they have women friends. Don't support shitty people or let them use you to themselves look good by your acquaintance.

Pinkbonbon · 22/11/2022 15:53

*to make themselves

PollyAmour · 22/11/2022 15:54

These men aren't your friends, and you shouldn't be bothered by their reaction to your boyfriend. Real friends would be pleased for you and eager to get to know your new man.

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Alexandernevermind · 28/11/2022 12:12

My male friends were like this. I used to enjoy they they were protective and looked out for me when we went to nightclubs, which gave me a lot of freedom in my clubbing days. There was no flirting, I befriended their girlfriends etc, all good. When I introduced my now dh and they were hostile and I quickly realised it was a toxic male territory thing. I dropped them like hot potatoes.

YRGAM · 28/11/2022 13:13

These men aren't your friends, get rid of them

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