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How long were you dating before you made things official?

31 replies

seasidegirl83 · 21/11/2022 17:25

I've been online dating for about 18 months and after lots of unexciting dates I've just had a third date with an amazing man. We are really enjoying getting to know eachother and taking things one date a time right now.

But, it got me wondering how many dates, or how long did you date for before making your relationship official? I'm not saying im at this stage yet but I'm interested in other peoples stories!

OP posts:
dudsville · 08/06/2023 07:45

When we met i was enjoying going on lots of dates and he was one of them. I realised straight away that he was a proper long-term prospect and I wasn't ready for that so i put it off for a little bit to think things through. Once we started seeing each other it was really just a matter of days. No big announcements or anything, we just fell in step with one another. Very much a love at first sight, happily ever after scenario.

Zanatdy · 08/06/2023 08:09

I haven’t done OLD but I wouldn’t have sex with someone these days if no exclusive. I personally only see one person at a time and I wouldn’t expect someone taking me on a date to be taking other women, which is why I OLD probably isn’t for me. I’d say a few weeks in maybe for exclusivity, if you mean telling everyone - expecting to make it social media official I’d say a few months in for me. Though I probably wouldn’t put anything on my social media for a while as I wouldn’t want people asking me if it didn’t work out

Bookworm20 · 08/06/2023 12:48

DigbyLongcock · 21/11/2022 17:32

In Ye Olden Days, we didn't "make it official". I think it's an internet-related thing ("changing your status" or some such). You liked someone so went out with them. You liked them enough to go out with them again, and then again. And so on. I managed to get married without the "making anything official" bit.

Yes same here. Its all changed quite a bit it seems.

It was always assumed you didn't sleep about/see other people if you started dating someone. Nowadays it seems you have to ask them to kindly not do that.

But in answer to your question, you are on date 3 (and congrats its going well with this one!) I would have that chat next time you see him about seeing how things progress with you both and not date anyone else.

Personally I can't see how things can progress with someone if one or both are still out 'window shopping'. I mean thats the point really. Once you found the thing you like, you buy it and go home, not keep looking just in case you spot a better one in another shop.
If it turns out the first thing wasn't suitable, you then go out and start looking again.

Lovestoned · 08/06/2023 21:38

Cousin early 30s is (seeing a person?) regularly for 4 months now but they are not bf and gf yet.

I recently finished a FWB situation that felt identical to a new relationship, at 6 months was told he didn’t want a gf right now and oh, had no feelings. For 6 months we were just sex robots having dinners and chatting for hours and watching movies and I met his friends? Next one it’s gf first and some basic commitment, or no sex.

WhatWillAPearDoAtNight · 09/06/2023 13:29

On our first date....which lasted 3 days ❤️

Mountainpika · 09/06/2023 16:35

!971 - met at a mutual interest group. Asked me out the day we met. Proposed 3 weeks later. Still together and married for decades now.

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