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Classical24 · 21/11/2022 17:13

Been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years and I have been dissatisfied with us having sex for well over two years now. When I was younger I had a very good sexual appetite and since meeting my current boyfriend, it's completely gone out the window. He's very attractive, tall, gentle, kind - everything you could ask in a man. But there's something that's always kind of put me off, not sure if it's since I've gained weight or perhaps insecurities.

We bought a house two years ago and moved in together and we get on like a house on fire, we are very very good friends and get along really well.

He's very 'cute' in the sense that he's got a weird side to him and calls me names like princess and bunny etc which I've grown to find quite sweet and others find it grotesque. I just still feel like something is missing. I'm not overly happy although I should be, we do not have sex and I don't have that cuddly kissy side like I used to. I almost feel permanently uncomfortable?

I'm torn, because I feel as though I don't want to be with him but at the same time I do. I don't want to feel the grass is greener elsewhere when it won't be. But I also don't want to be making a mistake. Someone help!

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Emmamoo89 · 21/11/2022 17:16

Sounds like there's no spark

allboysmum3 · 21/11/2022 20:41

I think you have moved into the "friends zone". Try and reignite the spark or you either live with just being "friends" and no sex or you move on. Ultimately one of you will end up fulfilling your sexual needs elsewhere eventually

Zanatdy · 21/11/2022 20:46

As others have said you need to move back out of friends zone into relationship / lovers. If you can’t do that then you really do need to think about ending the relationship unless both parties are completely happy about the lack of sex

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