Would someone love me more?

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I’m not sure if I’m being a bit dramatic or if we’ve just gotten really comfortable

but sometimes I look at how men are with their girlfriends and I wish I had someone love me like that

My partner isn’t emotional. Struggles expressing them, has some anger problems (I think anyway) and can snap (then apologise) when tense

Because of how he doesn’t express his feelings I find myself a lot just feeling like he doesn’t like me but then if I ask he reassures he loves me he’s just not like that

we have an 11mo baby together so that changes a relationship a lot I jnow

is it normal to have these thoughts ? He’s my first relationship and I did always think my last x

Very rare for tour fiest relationship to last forever now adàys.

When you say 'anger' issues.. do you actually mean abuse issues? For example: breaking things, punching walls, calling you names.

but sometimes I look at how men are with their girlfriends and I wish I had someone love me like that
Are you talking about ral life scenarios or the BS seen online on social media? Please don't compare your relationship to some perceived ideal that some people like to portray online. Reality is very often quite different Im sure

when I say anger issues I mean low scale. He’s never raised a hand to me or put me in a situation where I feel he would
he just gets frustrated very easily shouts very easily and his go to emotion is anger.

m I mean relationships around me really. My sister and her boyfriend, my mother and father. Friends and their boyfriends

Something I said to him few days ago was how I’ve never witnessed my dad shout at my mum and I never want our child to witness it (this was while I was saying he shouldn’t do that to me)

He sounds like someone who will never make you happy. Pretty much anyone would feel the same in your situation: you’re being starved of love and affection. And forced into the desperate upkeep of the cognitive dissonance which is ‘I know he loves me although he never expresses it’.

It sounds painful OP. You deserve to be loved and adored and have your own loving nature properly reciprocated.

If q relationship is healthy I wouldn't expect to shout at eachother very often at all. Maybe once or twice a year or something if there's other stresses going on... but I wouldn't stay with someone who thought it was acceptable to shout at me every time q minor inconvenience occurred in the life,

Is he aware of his anger and it's impact? If he dismisses it and your viewpoint, then I doubt he'll change.
If he does, then suggest he sees a counsellor or finds an anger management course.

*in their life, personally.

If its not good enough for YOU then that is perfectly valid reason to call it a day op. It's your life ahd you only get one go at it so you'd probably be wise to surround yourself with people eh make you happy and improve your quality of life. And remove people who are the opposite.

Does he show affection in other ways at all? Like hugs, cuddles or compliments.

My DP cannot verbally express emotions either and it did bug me at the start. But he grew up in a fairly emotionally stunted household so it doesn't come naturally to him. However he is physically affectionate and will compliment me. So whilst I will never get the passionate 'I love you' comments and grand gestures, I will get regular back rubs and hugs. What's important is that you can see in some tangible way he loves you - not you having to imagine it to yourself because there's no displays from him.

Have you tried telling him how you feel and what you want? It might help steer him if you are explicit about what you need. He should be willing to compromise for your sake and making the effort.

If it doesn't change things, you are within your rights to reconsider if you're lonelier with him than if you were actually alone. Feeling loved is the most important aspect of a relationship and if you don't feel that way, you don't have to stay with him.

...he just gets frustrated very easily shouts very easily and his go to emotion is anger.

What an absolutely horrible, damaging environment to raise a child in. Get the fuck away from him.