Ex husband cheated on me for a long time, once I found out we separated and divorced. Children are under 5 and we have been separated 3 years.
We are civil and co parent pretty well. If we didn’t have children I would never speak to him again after how he treated me but I worked hard to get to this stage and I don’t imagine our children have any idea, at least at the minute, how rough our divorce was.
my ex husband would love for us to have ‘family days out’, he frequently asks us to do things together like swimming, dinners out etc. i always politely decline. We do attend school functions etc together but outside of that I have no interest in spending time with him.
he has said a few times I should be trying to put the kids best interests first and we should be friends. He’s not my friend. I really dislike him.
my own family and friends have said similar despite knowing how he treated me, things like “maybe one day you can be friends for the childrens sake”.
i can never imagine this being the case nor would I want to. He completely broke me as a person and that’s not the kind of friend I need. I feel like being civil, communicating about the children and briefly chatting when the children are about it more than enough.