Tips to help please

[NewStartIn50s]

Recently ended a 3 1/2 year relationship. Need to keep busy so won't feel the urge to message out of loneliness. Scare of being alone but know the relationship was going nowhere.

I don't have lots of friends and work is mainly women or couples. I would love to meet someone nice and build a new relationship but know I'm getting older and have my own baggage.

Tips to keep busy.
Tips to find friends of either sex.
Tips to focus on moving forward and not looking back

Thank you

If you get to know the women, you might go out in groups and you might meet someone on a night out or they might introduce you to someone or they might throw a party and someone from their connections might click with you so I wouldn't overlook friendships with other women.
Keep busy: what hobbies did you neglect or stop doing or have not taken up due to your relationship? do them
Go try new work out classes, take up courses, volunteer, have a list of projects on yourself or your home or whatever. Reach out to old acquaintance and try to reconnect.
Looking forward tip is to make your life full and have dreams for your future so that looking ahead is more tempting than renumerating. To work on yourself and remember your reasons why you ended it. To give yourself time and distance to move on.

Thank you. I work 'with' other women but remotely so not close to me and difficult to go out since have a young child and no sitter. Sorry I didn't make it clearer.

Many thanks for the suggestions, I'll try a couple.

I'm going through a break up. I have long baths in the evening and don't take my phone in to the bathroom. So that's about an hour of time I definitely won't be able to message him.
I read and If I can't read because of the pain I listen to an audio book. That could be another hour.
I go for a walk by myself. Another hour.
I go to bed early and take an antihistamine so I'm drowsy and fall asleep.

Don't know about the moving forward bit because I'm currently just trying to get through each day hour by hour. First thing in the morning and evenings are the worst bit.

Also I hated having no notifications coming through, it was like I was addicted to the notification of him messaging me, so I have turned on every single notification, even email, so I don't het as much of that crushing emptiness every time I look at my phone and there is something to read / sort out.

Sorry you're going through it.

Thank you and sorry you are going through it too

Join a gym if you aren't a member of one already. I have a fantastic social life through mine and with people I've met in classes. 2 women I know have met their partners there too

I've joined some local social meetup groups. It's a bit hit and miss, some seem to be more for people who have various MH issues - fine, but leads to some odd conversations. Got one for gigs that's much better, so I think if you join one that does a specific activity you like, it's more likely that you'll meet people you have something in common with.

Thank you