Not really friends

[Zoftspins]

I met some people at a social group years ago. Some were good friends but we drifted apart and others were acquaintances. I was invited by 1 person and went to a Christmas market with these people. I was there for an hour and a half but had to leave to go to an AGM. This AGM was very important to attend to stop something very important to me from closing down.

I did not get chance to speak to the person who organised the event as he disappeared and I had to go. Later the person who organised it said he had a great time and tagged everyone except me - a bit of a kick in the teeth. It is like I was not even there. I didn't want to go to start with but my boyfriend said to as he didn't want me losing touch with them. I have never thought of them as friends as the group is quite cliquey. Plus they meet up multiple times a year and I only get an annual invite (this happens to 2 others too). I don't really want to go again if invited as I feel they are not friends. I can't connect with them as they do small talk and drink to the excess.

I feel they only go out just to take lots of photos and put on Facebook to get likes, they do this for all their get togethers and make sure they take plenty of photos. I just don't like all of this toxic behaviour.

It's very late and I'm not sure I've understood your post.

What I think I've read is there is a group of people who meet up multiple times per year and you (plus two others) are only invited to one event per year.

You did not want to attend the event to which you were invited, but did so because your bf encouraged you to do so.

Once there, you find the other group members to be shallow (doing only small talk) and drinking alcohol to excess.

You left the event early without speaking to the organiser who had disappeared.

Subsequently, the organiser posted on FB and tagged all participants excluding you. You referred this to as being a kick in the teeth.

The fact is, people drift apart - develop new interests, priorities etc.

FWIW, it sounds to me as though you don't want to be part of the group or attend the events. If that is true, just ignore any future invites, tell your boyfriend you're not going no matter why he thinks you 'should', and focus on people and issues that matter to you in the here and now.

Well don't go then.

You don't seem to be that into them and they into you.

It’s not a “kick in the teeth” for heaven’s sake. Do things only exist for you if you’re tagged on Facebook?

You briefly attended a get together, left before seeing the organiser, you don’t regard them as friends and now you’re taking offence? Don’t be daft.

Is this the musical lot?

Genuine question - why would your boyfriend want you to spend time with these people when you feel this way about them?

Not sure what the issue is here?

Feel like always ask this on these threads...
How often do you invite/set up meets?
Why didn't you 'check everyone in' if this is important to you? If not important or you don't want to, as a wise creature said- Hakuna Matata!

You don't enjoy their company much but you are bothered about who they tag on FB? . How old are you all?

@Trez1510 Thank you, I know I should be doing what I what based on what I feel and not what others are thinking.

If you don't want to go, then don't go. It isn't any harder than that.