How do I meet more Women?

[Fred92]

I'm 29 and single. I'm only around men in my life. Where I work it's 100% men. I try to go out with Facebook and Meetup groups but that's all men as well or very very old Women- 30+ years older than me.

There's nothing wrong with men but this is ridiculous. I need to have contact with some Women as well. I'm not necessarily talking about getting a girlfriend although that's what I ultimately want. I need to talk to some Women around my age. 20s, 30s or even 40s.

But I don't know how. Where do all the young/middle aged Women in my town go? I never see them at events. It's very bizarre. You would think I would see a few around.

Maybe start going the gym, but don't be a creep and ask women out... Become friendly at first and maybe ask them out in time if it feels right.

Unless you're very good looking don't bother with dating apps. Women only swipe the top 20% best looking men.

Try creative hobby groups and workshops (cooking, painting, goldsmithing) or language classes? The chance is higher to find 30+ women there but once you've befriended a few you might get into their social circle. So don't dismiss the ones that aren't attractive to you, their friend might be.

OP's is looking for friends, not dates.

Yoga, Pilates, Zumba classes, evening courses and classes, book clubs, language classes which actually force people to couple up and talk to practice, go on singles holidays for people in their 20s and 30s. Running club, cycling club, sewing, knitting.

Have you moved to a different town recently? It does take longer when you have no local friends to introduce you to their friends.

Is there a political party, action group, community campaign that interests you? They’re always looking for new members.

Noticeboards at the library, town hall, colleges/ university etc. Look out for flyers and notices when you go to a public event, ega concert.

Reading groups, car/bike maintenance classes, groups or evening classes for any subject or hobby that interests you (so you’ll have something to enjoy even if you don’t meet new friends).

Meet your male friends with their wives and girlfriends, soyou become part of their circle and meet their single friends.

I’ve seen Meetup groups specifically for 30s, so they undoubtedly exist for other ages too.

Best of luck. It can take time.

Go to different groups, different classes until you find some that aren't a saussage fest. Running, art, whatever. Be a regular. a) you meet people b) you have things to talk about.

Go to the gym. Dress nicely by paying attention to what people who look a bit like you but trendier look like. Tidy your house, cut your hair.

Don't view every woman you meet as relationship material even if they're fit and/or nice to you. Don't be thirsty (which is hard when you are actually thirsty) Go for genuine friendship. a) It makes you an actual genuine good person and b) even being cynical, female friends have more single female friends.

Good luck!

“Unless you're very good looking don't bother with dating apps. Women only swipe the top 20% best looking men.” This is categorically untrue. The vast majority of people meet online, regardless of looks. This is giving incel and its pure misinformation.

OP do two separate things. Firstly, think about your interests and the time you have. Then join groups appropriately. If you’re more intellectual then bookclubs are good. More sporty, try running groups. Don’t try gyms, women do not want to be watched and followed round the gym. It’s intimidating and treating them as if they’re there for men and not to work out.

separately think about dating. Do you want a hook up, dates, to meet the one? Use dating apps for this - tinder for hook ups; bumble for ‘the one’ - and build your profile accordingly. For hook ups just be upfront. For dating, remember on your profile you’re the ‘product’ so photos where you’re smiling please, info that a women could start a chat with you based on and no list of ‘you’ll be XYZ’. When you’re swiping you’re the ‘shopper’ don’t swipe on everyone - it’s a recipe for low self esteem.

What are your interests?