How to know if a girl is not right for me?

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Hi

I am talking to two girls from a marriage app.
I am comfortable talking to one girl and it's progressing slowly(just chats mostly) whereas the other i get a bit nervous when I talk to her and my hands shake a bit. Maybe because she wants to call me everyday?

Is this a sign that my body is telling me that this girl is not right for me or is it just that i am scared of a commitment and things going faster than expected or i am just nervous around girls?

Is there a way i can self reflect easily and find the answers i am looking for?

Sorry for vague questions but i just don't seem to be understanding my emotions. Any help would be appreciated.

Thank you

A marriage app? Are you from a faith group that you're looking specifically within?

Girls?

How old are they or do you mean women?

I first thought this was a joke.

I'm giving benefit of the doubt here.
I think we need an idea of your age and if you have to be on a marriage app for faith reasons as previously discussed above.

My initial thoughts were
marriage app and girls 😳
Seems a bit odd

You sound about 12. Maybe actually meet some real women instead of using an app to find a wife.

I am 29 years old.
Yes I meant women...
Yes I am looking for specific faith group which is why I use this app

I don't think you can KNOW if someone is right for you tbh. But I will share with you, my ex used to make me feel very nervous and shaky around him. I always thought this was because I loved him a lot so wanted to just be great for him. I then met my new partner and I don't feel nervous at all and I'm very much in love still. I feel so comfortable with him. In my experience with the right person you will feel completely at ease. Although, I wouldn't put all my eggs in one basket if I was you. Just take your time and build a connection with someone over time, If you don't feel comfortable enough to speak on the phone everyday. Then don't. Try to not put so much pressure on yourself. Good luck finding love.

It’s good to pay attention to how you feel communicating with each women.

I suspect meeting women online from your faith might progress differently than for others outside your faith so getting advice may be difficult. But I did meet my husband online, also.

What are the rules and customs for next steps in your culture?

(You’ll get loads of comments about referring to women as girls. It’s worth thinking about that deeply since you are in the market for a wife. This is serious business. You’ll want to find a person that you would describe as a woman, a partner you admire and respect. A girl is a child.)

Are you 28 or are you 29?

I don't think you can know just from talking on an app but I think if someone makes you incredibly nervous you should consider cutting contact

The beauty of meeting through a marriage app is that you both know what you want from a relationship. That means you can be very matter of fact about the things that make marriage work. Fancying someone, yes, but more importantly what are your values and attitudes around children, money, what your life goals are, travelling, where to live, all that stuff. I think you can afford to be very explicit about who you are if you're meeting this way.

If you think someone is being too full on and you've met through a marriage app you need to get off the marriage app to my mind.

Sounds like you've never spoken to women before. In order to assess whether she is right for you or not you'll actually have to get to know her.

What faith is it? Where are you?

Sounds like you have low self confidence. It's normal to talk over the phone and more personal.

Always go with your gut instinct.
Nothing wrong with taking your time (within reason of course).
Finding love isn't always an exact science and you have to sometimes live it to learn from it.
Go by actions and not words.
Good luck 💐

Do your hands shake because you like her and it makes you nervous you might say something that puts her off? Or do your hands shake because something about her is 'off' and maybe these every day calls feel too full on?

Personally I wouldn't want to speak on the phone every day with someone I'd never even met. One call maybe, but then meet and see if you get on.

Maybe it's done differently with a marriage ap. And they think it's progressed to the next stage if you meet? But you could just clarify 'I think its wise to meet people early for a quick coffee and see if we get on'.

Unless maybe you're worried word might get around about serial 'dating' in your community...in which case I can understand wanting to take more time via your phone to get to know them but...it's harder to get a gut feel before you meet in person. But I guess just work with what you've got and trust your gut.

I think you should give mummy her phone back and get yourself ready for bed time.

You are surely the guy on the other thread angst ridden over a girl at taco shop? 🤔🙄

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