Dating advice

[SpinningFloppa]

What would your dating advice/tips be for a single mum dating again after 5/6 years single? I feel like I’ve been out of it for so long that it’s going to harder to meet someone now. I think the longer you wait the harder it becomes. I don’t mean the obvious ones like no introducing kids etc straight away but any other advice or things you did? How about saying you have kids on your profile? Heard this is a big no no but I also wouldn’t want to lie to people and prefer to be honest up front. Has anyone found not being honest has put men off?

I'd mention having kids on the first date. But don't put it on your profile as there are a lot of paedos out there looking for vulnerable single women with kids.

Otherwise my tips would be, meet them fairly early. Don't waste weeks chatting with them. 2 or 3 conversations and then ask for a date if they seem sane. Meet daytime in a public place. Keep the first date relatively short and sweet.

If they haven't met you within 2 weeks, they are likely time wasters, drop them and move on.

As a rule of thumb, its wise to beware of anyone who is newly single or separated but not divorced yet.

Good luck! Just have fun with it

Would you hide something real about yourself for fear of putting someone off? Why? Your future partner will need to be ok with the whole you, and whilst I can understand minor things like not belching on the first date (even though you do belch sometimes), hiding major things is pointless.

My tip would be to do what feels right for you. Yes, some people might prefer not to know xyz about you, but if you want to tell them, and they don't want to hear it, that doesn't mean you did the wrong thing. It means you weren't compatible, and you found out quickly rather than wasting a bunch of time. A compatible partner for you will be comfortable with your way of sharing information about yourself. You'll probably get people telling you to 'do this' or 'do that', but really, do what you want and what you are comfortable with. Just make sure you ditch anybody who doesn't approve, and voila! Healthy boundaries!

When it comes to guys in general just look out for the over the top fake compliments from the start. That's a red flag. Be aware you don't know anyone's intentions and take anything that is said with a pinch of salt. Don't over invest etc. I've used dating apps on and off for a while and honestly, some pretty weird people on them 🤣 look for the ones who don't mention sex constantly or shoehorn their dick into every conversation. A lot of guys seem to find that incredibly difficult.

Agree with pp definitely don't put it on your profile. There's ones out there who will find that appealing for all the wrong reasons.

Kids thats meant to be.

I would tell people before meeting definitely wouldn’t wait till the date That way at least then they can decide it’s not for them, just wasn’t sure about not putting it on the profile.

Yes, I used to after matching. Just not on the profile itself. Shouldn't be an issue it only has been for one guy for me, he unmatched which is fine. I think most guys realise majority of women in my age group will have a child/ren.