Reassure me?

[KEvLA]

DH family are full of boys.
So when we had our second child, a girl, everybody was delighted. I told my DH my MIL was probably a bit disappointed that it wasn't my SIL who had a DD.
My SIL found out that she was pregnant (third baby and have 2DS. 3rd DD - surprise again.
I'm so excited too - girl cousin for my DD 💕
My MIL has declared her favourite GC is DH nephew - SIL DS.
My MIL is retired but doesn't make any effort to see our DS & DD. Even though she was desperately wanting a GD.
MIL has the GD she wanted - her DD baby girl.
Am I right to be cautious that her DD, baby G would take priority over my DD?

I'd like to add, I've already discussed, my DH family and my own family about wanting 3DC, No preference on gender - just 3.

My MIL remarked that I have DS and DD, I should be grateful and why do I need more! Found it quite offensive tbh lol. However because my SIL has 2DS it's acceptable.

Thoughts ?

@KEvLA

She can't tell you not to have anymore children it's yours and your DH choice.

I honestly wouldn't take notice of her.

You do come across a bit jealous of your SIL and it's not fair she doesn't bother with your kids. Just really ignore her.

Your DC have your family.

How close is your DH to his mum? Does he navigate family time and visit his family often with his DC? Is he an equal parent, who does his share of integrating his children into his family properly? MILs who spend more time with the grandchildren from their daughters than from their sons often do so because it’s more often women managing most of the children’s time and thus making sure they nurture the relationships. Men who aren’t as active in family life and leave it all to their OHs are generally the reason his family aren’t as conducted to the children.

I don’t think you need to get into any conversations about whether or not you have a third child. Just change the subject to something else.

Tbh I think you're a little too far up her backside. Who cares what mil thinks. Has she a rope tied to you or something? It worries me a bit that comment you made about the other granddaughter potentially being 'favorite'. If you genuinely think she's the sort of women who would treat her grandkids like that (eg: an arsehole) then why would you want her to be anywhere near your kids in the first place?

More than likely you are worried about zomething that won't happen but if you see signs of favoritism regarding the kids then back away from her. Don't run around after anyone trying to win affection and don't encourage your child to either.

I think your bottom paragraph basically sums up how I feel.

I don't think I'm jealous as much as my family are so different from my husband's. My mother was dying to be involved with my brothers children and couldn't give a damn about whether they were from me/sis/brother.
I've always made sure my MIL has been able to be totally involved - if she wanted to that is.