Can't shake off this abusive ex.

[scaredkitten]

Was in a really difficult relationship. No dc's. We ended things recently, but still talk everyday. I am scared of him. He knows things about me that could ruin me. He has threatened me before with those things. Think that's the only reason I still speak to him to try and keep him sweet.

I am emotionally scared by this man. It's hard to let go because I feel so indebted to him. He stayed with me through all the hurt I caused him. But he is horrible, nasty and belittles me. I know it's not healthy. I know it's because of what I've done to him. Some days I just want to break down as the burden of him hangs over me.

I want to break down in floods of tears because I am so utterly devastated how this man has changed. I swear he used to be the most loveliest, caring, kind and compassionate person. Now it's just blame, rage, anger, jealousy, resentment bitterness...

I need to block him but I'm terrified. Help.

You're stressed and anxious so probably thinking the very worst could happen if he told others about the things you think could ruin you.

Would people really care? Would your friends/family/colleagues just think that he was being vindictive?

Unless he has evidence that you've committed a very serious crime can he really ruin things for you?

Is there someone you can talk to about what you're afraid he will tell people about you, so they can help you put it in perspective?

But you do need to stop communicating with him - doesn't matter that he was once kind, he's being horrible now. It's not your fault that he's being horrible- if he's upset with your behaviour he can simply walk away, he doesn't need to torment you.