Trigger warning, domestic violence

[Jamja]

Just really looking for some advice. A person close to me is in a very physically and mentally abusive relationship, extremely coercive. My question is to those who have been in a relationship like this, that have left, Made the break. What was it that finally got you to leave? And what was the most helpful thing your loved ones did to help at the time? Yeh
many thanks to anyone who can answer me. I really really appreciate any advice that anyone may have

I left when he first said he was going to kill me,then that he’d rather just make my life so miserable I’d wish I was dead. I took the risk of staying to find another job, arranged a rental flat, then left while he was he at work. I was lucky in that I didn’t have any children with him.
Trying to persuade your friend to leave might not work. It often takes a long time, several attempts ( many women return). All I can suggest is you are always there to listen and offer help when she asks, and let her know she can ask for help.
Get all the info you can from sites like Women's Aid to show her when she’s ready.
I hope your friend gets away, it’ll be the start of her new life.

An affair. Them, not me. That initially did it. But I still got ducked back everytime they clicked their fingers. I finally saw them for what they were. Friends helped by not asking too many questions, by keeping me occupied when I needed it and giving me space when I needed that. I wish your friend all the best and much luck.

*sucked, not ducked 🙈