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Opinions please....

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wildwoman · 30/01/2008 18:17

I have been having problems with dd1's behaviour lately (well forever really but more extreme recently) She shouts at me all the time and tells me I'm a horrible mummy etc. She told me yesterday to put on some make up find another man and if I do she will stay with daddy. She's SIX! DP and I have a good relationship soI don't know where it is coming from.She is insanely jealous of her little sister so she is probably seeing how far she can push me before I reject her which is what she thinks I will do. I know she's hurting but it is really getting me down when she tells me she won't eat my food because it's disgusting and that I do nothing becuase I don't work (I gave up work to spend more time with her) ANYWAY I could really do with DP giving me a bit of support but for the last 3 weeks he hasgone to a supermarket every night after work and only gets in after six (he works five minutes from home an finishes at 6) I have normally reached the end of my tether by then and have hidden from the kids as I'm doing now on the computer! Why can't he just come home earlier? I know it's not much fun here at the moment but we're all stuck in the same boat.
I'm not expecting any solutions it is just a bit of therapy to write it down.

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wildwoman · 30/01/2008 18:18

Ok so I shouln't have titled it Opinions Please then!

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wildwoman · 30/01/2008 18:25

One opinion would be nice [needy emoticon]

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Drusilla · 30/01/2008 18:25

What on earth does he do at a supermarket every night?

wildwoman · 30/01/2008 18:28

He buys the ingredients for dinner everynight, don't ask me why! I would suspect an affair if he didn't come home with food every night.

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OverMyDeadBody · 30/01/2008 18:31

Sounds like you need a break!

Am curious where a six year old would get ideas like putting on make-up to find another man, that if you and DP where to split she would live with him, and that you should DO something because you don't work? Am I really that naive about what children understand

wildwoman · 30/01/2008 18:34

She is freakishly intelligent which is part of the problem. I don't know where she gets that idea from, I've never mentioned divorce etc. She just seems to hate me at the moment.

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wildwoman · 30/01/2008 18:34

freakish came out wrong, it's just the way I talk.

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wildwoman · 30/01/2008 18:43

Oh well he's home now.

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wildwoman · 30/01/2008 18:43

Oh well he's home now.

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kittywise · 30/01/2008 18:47

she sounds very angry

jalopy · 30/01/2008 18:49

I'm confused. Is your dp her father?

wildwoman · 30/01/2008 18:56

Yes he is

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dizietsma · 30/01/2008 19:12

Check out-

How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk for some very practical advice about how to get to the bottom of this

and

Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn for an alternative approach to traditional parenting techniques. I think it would be especially useful for gifted kids like you DD.

Good luck!

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