Am I overreacting to this?

[thesegoto11]

My husband and I have been together near enough 10 years, and not once has he ever done this. One of my relationships before I met DH was with someone physically and emotionally abusive which took me a long time to get over so I get triggered quite easily I guess.

DH was in a bad mood before his night shift; he was tired and blamed me for not eating anything that day (I was out all day with our baby) and when he walked past me, he purposefully shoved me out the way as I was in the way. It wasn’t a strong push but enough to know that it was on purpose and not nice. I asked him why he shoved me out the way and he said “you were in my way”

I brought it up with him the next day and he eventually apologised and said he wouldn’t do it again, he was tired and in a bad mood, but I can’t shake the feeling that it was wrong. Or am I being OTT

@thesegoto11 - I was a therapist. Very often abusers will fly under the radar, until there are children. The reason for this is that the moment they become parents, they regress and their own childhood very much comes to the fore. They are, to all intents and purposes, reliving something and acting it out in their current environment.

I would leave. These are warning signs, and they will almost certainly escalate. Actually, ignore that: they will escalate. No two ways about it. Leave him to his demons, get out, and then I would explore further your own connection to abuse in your intimate relationships.

Gah! Must check dates next time.