Phone call

[fluffyrainbow1]

Bare with me!
DH and I have been having a few issues recently, and I just can't get out of my head that something is off. A couple of weeks ago his phone started ringing while we were all in the kitchen. He looked at it and put it straight back in his pocket without saying anything. Something about it seemed odd and It's playing on my mind constantly since (this isn't the only thing but this particular thing has been niggling at me). I haven't said anything about it to him but the same thing happened yesterday.
This afternoon I was ordering the kids school photos on his phone. I was doing it through PayPal and the card I was using is linked to his so was just easier to do it on his phone and not have to get the cards out, he knew I was doing it and said it was ok. I probably shouldn't have but I decided to look at his call log. The call yesterday was just an annoying random number that rings all the time, I get them too. But the call from a couple of weeks ago in the kitchen wasn't there. It happened on Halloween so I know what date ot was and remember the time, and there are no calls on there from that day. Which can only mean he deleted it. I can't think of any other reason he would do that other than that my suspicions are correct.
I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or where to go from here. I mean why else would he delete that particular phone call?! I'm not sure what to do

I'd watch and wait.

How is your relationship generally? I'm guessing there must be something not going so well, otherwise you wouldn't have given the call a second thought. Bide your time, don't do anything hasty but make sure you have your own ducks in a row.

Hopefully it's nothing and it will all blow over.

Not the best at the moment but it's mainly me because I can't shake this feeling. And I don't know if I'm being paranoid or if it's because I've been struggling with PND but I don't know. Usually when that random number calls (it's a London number and we get them all the time) he'd say "it's that stupid number again" but the fact he didn't say it was what made me think about it. But he didn't say that when they rang yesterday either and it was definitely that number. But then, why delete the call from Halloween. All other calls from the day after and day before are there, so he has to have deleted who it was

If I received a nuisance call I would delete it - I am not sure that him deleting it is a cause for concern.

He didn't delete it yesterday though or the other million times they've called?

Why doesn't he block the annoying phone call.

Open his what's app and see who is on his top calls, messages

Any numbers you don't recognise

You haven't got much concrete evidence to be worrying. My android call log is a total mystery, after 15 years I still don't understand the logic of what appears and what doesn't. But loads of calls don't log, I don't know if they are rejected calks, ones that went to voicemail or what, but many calls don't log and I never delete. Same with outgoing.

There's a voice in your gut that doesn't speak. Listen to it x

There’s more than one nuisance caller in the world. I get loads of calls I don’t answer. I get callers I block and I delete them from the log in case I bag dial a scam number. I do this erratically.

A gut feeling is anxiety generated by micro observations our brain is making and which are being processed as danger signs because something isn’t adding up. It’s a real thing and we shouldn’t dismiss it.

But we can feel anxiety and other emotions because wrong signals are being sent out and we misreading the world around us. Big hormonal changes can send signals about all sorts of danger and emotions. During menopause I didn’t need LTB I needed HRT.

Bare with me!

No I'm not getting naked with you!

As for him it could be simply a scam call but you're on red alert because things aren't right, and you look for something in anything. I'm in that situation at work, working with some new people and I'm relating their behaviour to previous colleagues who've been difficult.

You can only keep alert about it really.