My brother & I have always been good friends. We come from a dysfunctional family and have supported each other with our strained relationships with parents & step parents. We share a love of antique hunting & history and would go out together once or twice a month to explore castles, National Trust etc.
Two years ago my step father died and my mother moved back to our hometown. Her relationship with my brother has always been an angry, controlling one (on her part) and my brother kept it arms length.
Together we were trying to sort out DMs financial affairs, clear her old house etc. It's been difficult, not least because her old house is nearly a 4 hour drive away & DM & SF were holders with just so, so much stuff to sort out.
In April my DB made a flying visit on his own (I was working so couldn't go with him) and found some paperwork that needed dealing with. He texted to ask if he could bring it round so I'd help him & I said OK, but I needed a sleep first so could he come in an hour.
He threw a strop, told me he'd gone all the way to the house but I couldn't even be bothered to stay out of bed (I have an autoimmune disorder that means I get very tired) and that was the last ive heard from him.
I've tried general "Are you ok?" type texts but he doesnt reply. Ive lost my best friend and I feel so upset its making me feel ill. Its his perogative to chose who is or isn't in his life but I can't bear thi.