Dating conversation after divorce

[Estherpologist]

Is it just me, or is it really difficult to not talk about your divorce (or your ex) when you're divorced and dating someone who is divorced?
It doesn't seem to be a problem (yet) but both our exes just keep coming up in conversation.

I met my current partner 5 months after I left my husband, and have gone through the whole divorce within our relationship. He talks about his ex sometimes, and I talk about mine..more so if you're telling a story and a place was where you went with them or whatever. As long as it's not in a comparative way etc I think it's pretty normal? For me, I was with my ex for ten years so 1/3 of my life... unfortunately when talking, hes going to be mentioned in stories and stuff. X

I haven't ventured into dating yet but I'd like to think I could talk about my ex and the divorce in my next (hopefully) long term relationship. I was with my STBEXH nearly 20 years, have young children and a lifetime of shared experiences that I won't just pretend didn't Happen. If you are both secure in this new relationship they should want to know about your life before them?