Ghosting and OLD

[froggers1]

So, I met a guy on OLD 6 weeks ago. We chatted for a week or so then met for dinner. Had a lovely time. Then the next date was at my house. He stayed over. We have whatsapped or videocalled everyday gor 6 weeks. Been over for dinner twice a week since. Last saw him on Weds eve. Big hug at the end of the eve. Then a bit of Whatsapp chat Thurs and Friday. Didnt reply to my last message on Friday so left him to it til Sat afternoon and he has blocked me! To start with I didn’t realise but it was strange to not get a good morning. I’m beyond upset. Why would someone do this? I have left voicemails by using 141 to ask him to at least text me a bit of an explanation. So rude. And there was no indication this was on the cards. Is this normal behaviour? I’ve just come out of an 18 yr marriage so not used to all this. Thoughts?

Didn't want to read and run.
Sorry, OP!

I'm sorry! It's so frustrating and gutwrenching when it happens to you.

Sadly, it's a very common practice on OLD. People treat dates as disposable commodities, not real humans. Motives could be plenty - maybe he's not actually single. Maybe he was just after sex but fed you a different story. Maybe things got serious with another dating prospect and he was too much of a coward to tell you.

Regardless, just know it wasn't anything you did. You just didn't read him well enough.

If you want to minimise your chances of this happening again I would hold off on getting intimate for at least 5-6 dates. Weeds out the players quite well, but not all.

Takes thick skin to survive doing old...

Thanks😘 I think it was sex and I think I should have held off with him. Weirdly though on Weds he was really tired and just wanted to watch TV. Umm. I don’t know. He didn’t want me to go to his but I’m pretty confident he lived alone. I could randomly video call when he was in bed. I’m just upset that he couldn’t even send a message to explain. He definitely wasn’t seeing anyone else but he may have been messaging someone I guess. It’s hard work all this. I liked him🥲

Married and wife came close, or did, find out.

It might go against the grain but I think you should have waited to have sex till you knew him better. Or just taken it a bit slowly. Regardless, he's an idiot for blocking you.