Do people have to warm to you

[whatisforteamum]

I've started a new job
Most of the people that work there are so friendly.
There is one lady that barely engages with me and gives knowing looks and sideways glances.
Is it just me or do others have people that like them once they know them more.
I feel like people thame time to warm to me.

Yes I’m definitely like this! I’m quite shy and prefer interacting with people one on one so it can take longer to get to know people and for people to warm up to me like you say.

Yes I can also relate to this.. also an introvert

But dear god it’s hard work isn’t it!

Some of the best people I know or who I have met are those who I just click with at the get go because they are so warm and friendly and completely open to new people.

I envy these types.

I am very open and like everyone until they do something nasty.
I assume they have good intentions tbh.
I must be somewhat approachable as people chat to me in shops.

Haha I’m the other way around, people love me when they first meet me but sooner or later I say something weird/inappropriate and if that isn’t their vibe, they go off me.

🤷‍♀️🤣

Dontaskdontget ...same.
I'm a bit too honest sometimes.Not sure I have much of a filter.

Some of my closest friends said they didn't know how to take me when we first met. I know I come across as stand-offish when first meeting people but it's not intentional. Give your colleague a chance, try engage with her on a casual basis in kitchen, offer to make a coffee? And also take note if whether she dies have other friends, who they are and how they interact with everyone else. It could be a clique going on, in which case it might be a lost cause, but at least you'll know where you stand and can concentrate on making connections with the people who are open to it

Dontbelieveawordofit that is reassuring thanks.

I have to warm to people.

Where work is concerned it's different, I don't need to like them, i just need them to do their jobs well. If anyone asked me if I like a work colleague, I've no idea, as I don't know them to be honest.

I was someone that people used to warm to very easily. But I found that it often led me to get involved with the wrong people.
So now I am actively a bit more aloof to start with, and have better quality friendships as a result.