Been with my (now ex) dp nearly 5 years . Last year he had a serious accident and bought a caravan earlier this year . He decided to live on the site and found some friends and then it all went down hill from there to the point where it all become really toxic and we’ve had a lot of rows and people on the site have took sides …
So we’ve recently split up , he’s stayed living in his caravan and has formed a close friendship with someone who is well known on the site for liking a drink too much , she’s banned from most of the park and she’s latched onto my ex dp (she has a husband and grown up kids but she admits she wears the caravan . The grown up kids have their partners grilled , doctors appointments made for them and she’s very intense with them just to paint a picture of this woman .
So , fast forward to recently we’ve split up but all my stuff is still at the caravan , we was in the process of moving down there full time but then we started arguing a lot … we bought 2 puppies not long after we had the caravan so life has been so stressful . I work and travelled 2 hours each way to get back to the caravan so on top of constant arguments , I was actually mentally and physically drained . Ex “d”p didn’t do anything in the caravan and if I didn’t do it it wouldn’t get done . So I kept staying away for weeks at a time coming home , the caravan would get worse , the puppies were destroying everything and then his health deteriorates to the point where he went on holiday with his friends last month and this friend had the dogs and a key to the caravan . Ex partner told me the friend had done a “deep clean “ of the caravan then last week ex dp took an over dose and ended up in intensive care so again this friend decided to clean his caravan …
what everyone has decided to not tell me but she’s actually packed all my stuff . So the caravan was a big mess , the washing machine wasn’t working , the dogs had destroyed everything whilst his mental health deteriorated and I wasn’t around , he would sleep a lot and basically he was depressed so the caravan was in a state .
So this friend has gone thru his caravan and packed up all my stuff , nothing was anywhere it should be . The bedroom had become a floordrobe , bathroom was like a laundry room for dirty washing and everywhere was just chaos coz he wasn’t well , I just didn’t have the mental headspace to tidy up and 2 puppies in the mix …
So now I feel violated that someone has walked into his caravan to “help” him but in the mean time has gone thru everything I own to pack it all ! So the bathroom I imagine was full of dirty pants , my sex toys were in the bedroom , Ann summers stuff … you know normal couple stuff and she’s packed the lot and sorted out his caravan !!
without me knowing any of this !
And he can’t see why I feel hurt and disrespected that someone he’s known 6 months has done this !!!
ok if it hadn’t been such a mess I would’ve thought ok that’s great but the fact the last time I was down the caravan we were arguing , life was stressful , I hadn’t thought to hide my most secret things because I never expected this ? I didn’t think I would have some woman on the site going thru my stuff ?!
Judging me for failing as a woman and not looking after him as a partner I guess !
whereas we all know someone can look into anyone else’s relationship and judge but if you was in it yourself you might see a very different perspective.
I don’t know if she’s done it without him knowing or if she’s told him and he’s just thought great or if he hasn’t wanted to say no to her incase it looks bad on him that he’s been slagging me off to everyone and now he can get rid of my stuff he doesn’t want to so has gone along with it to save face …
Whatever option , I still feel like a virtual stranger has violated me ! How would anyone else feel in this situation ?