Do you ignore calls when your man is around?

[PicnicBunny]

Just wondering…
I always answer the phone, or reply, text back people if I’m busy even when I’m with my family, kids, and my husband. Working is different, phone switched off. My friend always ignores my calls and text messages when her new boyfriend is around. Like three days in a row I mean. Not just hours. She will call back when the weekend is over and talk. I’ve asked her why, her bf does know she has friends and she said because they don’t get enough time.. or she can’t just leave him in other room and talk to me.

hmmm… I’ve never met her man. Just hasn’t happened he’s busy she’s busy we’re busy, made effort to meet, but after a while (and he treated her awfully for a while I head from her, I took the stance to not make an effort that I have to meet him) She has been seeing him for a while now, years. I’ve never noticed it to bother me, but this last weekend it suddenly registered because she wanted me to know I shouldn’t call when she’s with her man.

*Her man, my man, your man

What is this shit ?*

My sentiments exactly. Can you imagine the response if a man referred to 'my woman'?

She is isolated with him. As someone above said. But I see no other signs when we meet up that she is in an abusive relationship. She does not talk about him. Sometimes she has said they argue - which she will then let out that they are entirely incompatible (not my business to judge or interfere) he is not physically abusive I don’t think… I don’t see this not answering the phone as a sign. But this last weekend I was wondering … why not answer or text back for 3 days?? Does he not want her to meet me, talk to me, be her friend? They’ve been together about 5 years now on and off, he lives with his parents.

Just to say, I don’t answer as a ‘must’ answer while I’m in the middle of being with someone. Watching film with kids def NO. Not even a text back until it’s finished. Out and about, I might text back. it’s just normal to me that people don’t call that often and when they do, I can easily pick up the phone and tell them I’m busy. My mum has her time, and sister too. Friends we do usually catch up over the weekend, at some point. This friend usually does call over the weekend. And definitely longer chatting on a Sunday.

It’s a sort of consistency that happens with people. I rarely get calls from people I don’t want to talk to anymore. We’re not new friends. Been friends for about 16 years.

I also ignore my phone if in any company. I feel it is very rude not to.

There are people who don't answer their phone if they are with their husband/wife? I find that really weird. So if I'm at home with my husband I should ignore the phone if my parents call... until my husband goes out of the room or the house? Bonkers.

I always answer calls from the DC and my DMum (who is in her 90s) in case it's an emergency.

Other people, it depends what I'm doing. There are circumstances where I think it would be rude to interrupt what's happening in RL

I would always answer the phone at home, so would dh. Obviously it's different if you are chatting with a guest or out socialising with other people, but I find it very odd that people would find it 'rude' to answer their phone when in the company of their husband or wife in their own home. Sounds like a weirdly formal relationship.

Your title is quite loaded in your favour.
Another way of saying it is 'do you ignore the present company to take calls from people not there.'

Why do people get so aggressive when people post and don’t use ‘MN lingo?’ It’s weird. Not everyone wants to type ‘DP’ ‘DH.’ A lot of people refer to their partner as ‘their man’ or ‘their missus’ etc so what’s the problem?

My phone is always on silent, and often in another room, so I ignore all calls (not that there are many)! But if I was the kind of person who did answer unsolicited calls, it would make no difference whether or not my partner was present.

This ^.

My what?

I meant your goat. Lol when you’re with your goat 🐐

She won't reply when with him, you haven't meet him, she hasn't meet his friends or family, and he lives with his 'parents'? I'd say married and she knows it.

Probably my favourite post all day today. You've made me chuckle!

I did when we first starting dating, not ignore everyone, but certain people if they called and I know I’m usually on the phone with them for ages I wouldn’t answer, I’d wait until I was free to have a long chat with them. Do your conversations usually last a long time?
Not sure when I started taking long calls when he was there, but probably once we’d routinely started spending the weekends together

No. My family and partner come first.

Why do people get so aggressive when people post and don’t use ‘MN lingo?’ It’s weird. Not everyone wants to type ‘DP’ ‘DH.’ A lot of people refer to their partner as ‘their man’ or ‘their missus’ etc so what’s the problem?i

It's nothing to do with failure to use MN lingo. 'My man' is such a cringeworthy term. The female equivalent is 'my woman' not 'my missus'. Do lots of men refer to their female partner as 'my woman'? Sounds very cave man like and overly possessive to me.

But I see MN littered with My DH ?

I think both my DP and I answer our phones around each other. It could be important.

If we are at family or have gone out I suppose you message if somewhere you can't talk at all then you just don't answer. I have to answer my phone especially to my DC or DM.

Saying that I had a friend who never use to answer her phone around her husband. Think she couldn't talk when he was around and think it was abuse.

Some people just ignore family/friends when their DP are around.

I would leave her to it when he there you never really know what actually goes. Maybe she wants to give him her full attention. Probably he might say you can talk to your friend anytime why when I am here.