So down today

[Mistyautumnday]

In many ways I have a lovely life and feel awful moaning, but I’m starting to feel unwelcome and pushed out of my own home by DHs constant complaining. It isn’t really that bad but sometimes feels like it.

He doesn’t like my cat. He is constantly going on about the cat, about fleas and so on and the smell if the cat uses the litter tray. I’m genuinely considering if I should look into other options for the cat as I just can’t take his complaining any more.

Maybe have an open and honest discussion with him about the cat?

He’s been very open and honest. He hates the cat. So - what now?

Which came first - husband or cat?

Are you giving the cat flea treatment, changing the litter tray enough? If you live together then he should also be taking care of the cat. Is it just the cat he moans about?

Both. I had cats when I met DH, they since died and I got another. I did talk about it with him first.

Not sure why you got a cat if your DH hates the cat so much - unless the cat predates DH, in which case he knew about the cat beforehand so he will just have to suck it up! And I'd be telling him that.

@minticecreamisjustok i must have missed a flea treatment, I really don’t think I did but must have, as the cat got fleas. But you would honestly think the house was taken over by a plague of locusts.

He only has the tray at night. DH complains about it smelling if he goes down first in the morning.

The main issue is it’s so shit to have someone on at you all of the time. I feel unwelcome, like he would prefer me and the cat to fuck off.

“He said it was him or the cats. We’ll miss him”.

If I’d known it would lead to this level of misery I wouldn’t have @RatherBeRiding but it’s done now.

The thing is though I resent that. He can have hobbies and things he enjoys and I cannot. So in essence it’s not really home at all, is it?

If the smell bothers him, he should also be changing it not leaving it to you and complaining. Him or the cat? I'd choose the cat.

Train the cat to use the loo like the one in meet the fockers.

My partner periodically moans about my cats - he is not stupid enough to say it’s me or them, lol. It just goes in one ear and out the other with me. Just ignore him, op.

Or another option is for him to start shitting in the litter tray. See how the cat likes it

It isn’t really about the cat.

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