Feeling Downgraded to FWB - without the sex!

[Juneyjunejune]

Been with BF for 3 years, and things had been going really well - we’d got through a tricky time where my mental health had been poor and I was frustrated with his communication style - but we seemed to have found our groove, and we’re happy.
We’d reached a nice pattern of seeing each other, felt really close and trusting.
A couple of months ago, BF’s circumstances changed which has meant that spending time alone together has been much more difficult. We still have the same pattern of contact day to day in terms of calls / texts, but the actual being together, having time to properly talk and have infamous ‘quality time’ have all but vanished. We’ve not had sex in weeks.
I know that’s not the be all and end all, but I suddenly feel pushed to the edge of his priorities - he doesn’t seem bothered about the changes and hasn’t made the most of situations that have come up to help.
I feel really low, unwanted and just a convenience. How do we turn things around?

I dont have any wisdom , but I can sympathise.

What's stopping you from ending it?

I think knowing what and why circumstances have changed would give much needed context here.

His ex dying and leaving him as sole parent of a toddler is very different to him picking up a new hobby that takes up all his time.

You start by looking at the situation and making a plan. If the changes are temporary - then you decide if you stick around and wait.
If this is something that isn’t going to change any time soon - you decide if this is what you want for yourself.
And, of course - you ask him too. Is he happy with the situation and what does he see changing.