Home sick

[Tequilachic12]

so I moved away during the pandemic after being in a long distance relationship with my partner for over 2 years. Everything was great between us but it was very hard for me as I missed my family so much. It was also hard because my partners family wasn’t great with me and I couldn’t really go out and socialise during a pandemic. I have lived there for 3 years now and we have bought a house and our relationship is still great but if I’m being completely honest I miss home.

we have also been trying for a baby for over a year which I think is stressing me out and making me feel emotional.

I come and visit my friends and family as much as I can. I just feel completely different when I’m back at home. We have discussed moving to my home town but my partner doesn’t want to and if I’m being completely honest we couldn’t afford it.

I feel so guilty that I’m missing out on so much with family and friends and I regularly get anxiety/ panic attacks about the situation. I’m so conflicted because my partner is absolutely brilliant and we have an amazing set up.

I have thought about what my life would be like if I broke up with my partner and moved back. Then I feel so guilty for him as he’s done nothing wrong, I’m so torn. do people just walk away from amazing relationships due to feeling home sick?

any advice or story’s would be great thank you

I have walked away from a relationship because what we both wanted was different. Not specifically because I was home sick. He wanted a life abroad, I did not. I already lived in a separate country to some family and didn’t want to leave the family I have here behind as well.

Whilst I loved him, I wouldn’t have been happy living the life he wanted and he wouldn’t have been happy I hung the life I wanted and it’s all worked out. He lives abroad, I live here both in relationships. Mum passed away last year so I am glad I was close by for the last few years.

I can’t advise what you do. Because it depends on how bad it is. And if you loved back what sort of life would you have.

Also things change in 3 years. While there’s maybe plenty of fuss when you visit now, living there may not be the same.

But only you know if you can face living your life where you are now, given he doesn’t want to move and you can’t afford it.

But, until I made my decision I would be putting the trying for a baby on hold. That’s likely to make you feel even worse if you already feel very alone.

Any chance you can afford to live closer? If it it’s not in the same area? What about work for both you and your dp? If you lived closer would finding jobs be easy or can you your jobs go with you? There’s a lot to decide. It’s not easy.

But I wouldn’t want to live somewhere I felt very alone.